INFP men are too..girly, for my tastes.
Also too emotional and clingy.
Whoa, dude. By virtue of the fact that I have many very WEIRD friends, I know a lot more INFP/ENFP males than most people know exist. I probably have six or seven male INFPs and a solid 15-20 male ENFPs in my immediate and extended social circle (thank you for those personality tests, Facebook! And, yes, I'm more or less sure that they were correctly identified based on my interactions with them).
I only know one REALLY unhealthy male INFP, and he has been carrying a torch for my best friend (ENTJ) for YEARS. He has been in some TRULY toxic relationships, and doesn't function very well. He'd be insulted if I called him an emo wussie because he's a big guy and not too bad-looking, but that's pretty much the story.
The other INFP men tend to have some issues, yes...but possibly as a result of getting teased or whatever...seem to have acquired interesting and completely masculine habits and hobbies. I like them. Among them are carpenters
wubbie:
), construction workers (Just hand me the Diet Coke already!! Men in nothing but jeans and boots need to line up outside my door, starting NOW), metal sculptors (NOM he looks good in a leather apron), artists (one of whom is a knight in a medieval recreation society, and HE looks HOT in chainmail with a battle axe, what with the broad shoulders and all), a guitarist (sexy tattoos and a good lyricist), a Latin dance teacher
heart:
He can move his hips like two cats fighting inside a burlap bag), a truck mechanic (who is VERY handy to have around, especially if you can hang back a bit and watch him bend over the engine
), and other sundry traditionally masculine professions or hobbies.
The ENFP men tend to gravitate more towards the socially masculine hobbies; barbecuing, football (playing and watching), basketball, throwing keggers, clubbing to pick up chicks (and DAMN they are GOOD at it. I'm glad I got more or less relegated to the role of Little Sis a long time ago; it gave me an inside view into how sensitive men can REALLY get to the head of the line when it comes to picking up women. I know your tricks, all you NFP men!!), and similar.
But you are an INTP. Wallpaper is too emotional and clingy for your taste.
I'm not a fan of the clingy. It's gotten me in trouble before, because in one relationship when I was younger, I actually assumed on occasion that the man was kidding when he would say stuff like "why didn't you call me yesterday? I was waiting for you to call!" I would laugh, and say, "Yeah, right, ha ha, you were waiting by the phone for me." He would then assume the visage of a kicked puppy, and I would STILL laugh, because I still thought he was teasing. He must have thought I was one stone cold bitch.
I love it when some folks here take a sample of one, and then declare their findings to be universal for all of that type. Many of the folks on the Wrong Planet Forum, which is a forum for people with Autistic Spectrum disorders, have a saying, "If you meet an Aspie, you have met one Aspie." They too don't appreciate people generalizing based upon their experience with one or two aspies, though this tendency appears to be a common human behavior. I agree with Biaxident. Please don't make assumptions about me, or people of any other type based upon your experiences with one or two people who happen to be my or their type.
It's a good idea to do exactly as Will and Biax are saying: if I didn't separate out the poor treatment I just got from one male INFP from the others that I know, I'd be robbing myself of what is probably the best type of person for me to be with, and all for the sins of one man.
Too bad that man didn't want to sin a little bit more with ME, and a little less with OTHER
women.
Also there are two main categories of INFP: the immature ones that everyone associates as infp, and the rare, mature INFP that is almost the complete opposite in every way. Be patient and understanding till then, and we make up for it.
YES, yes, you do. It sucks a little bit to wait for you guys to get your heads out of your asses, though. Here we are, all the INTJ/ENTJ femmes who just ADORE the cuddlies (though you will NEVER hear me admit that in public), and you guys are too busy painting a perfect face over an ideal mind and a lovely body in your heads, and not noticing that one SERIOUSLY good thing is staring you in the face.
This plus that post a bit back, or somewhere, where someone said they didn't know male INFPs existed, and another that said INFPs are so rare, kind of implies that many INFP males don't live long enough to reach maturity.
That's true enough of MEN, not just INFP males.
