Obfuscate
Permabanned
- Joined
- Aug 20, 2016
- Messages
- 1,904
- MBTI Type
- iNtP
- Enneagram
- 954
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
What are you attracted to?
intelligence, kindness, competency, extremes of fortitude/weakness, honesty, altruism, anti-authoritarian attitude, extremes of introversion/extroversion, critical thinking, troubled pasts, extremes of modesty/immodesty, extremes of naivety/cynicism, articulate expression, and extremes of submissive/dominant demeanor (though i should note that extremely dominant behavior in a partner spells a doomed relationship)...
i am repelled by:
vanity, overly expressed pride, aggression, cruelty, nagging, dedication to rules/schedules/planning, manipulation (of myself or others), an inability to listen, bossiness, and emotional/sexual/monetary predation...
What in girls or guys?
more or less the same thing...
For purposes of friendship AND romantic pursuit?
more or less the same thing, though when romantic interest is involved i become simultaneously more and less picky... i should explain that... when i am considering someone as a mate (before emotion is involved) i am much more picky... if emotion is already at play, i become much more accommodating... well, now that i explained my reasoning i can see that it applies to friends also, but not in as pronounced a way as it does with a romantic interest/partner...
Does what you have historically been attracted to usually lead to success in friendships and?
when i first saw that emoticon it looked "inappropriate"... all i saw at first was vigorous motion of one smilie behind another...
i haven't had many failures in friendship (so yes there)... with romantic interests, my tendency to overlook things i don't want to see has always lead to trouble... i always think to myself "but they are so great in nearly every other way... surely i am not perfect, so i guess i really should make allowances for this discrepancy... perhaps if i was more of a catch i could be more picky, but i am only getting older... i can only imagine what my options will look like in ten years after all of the "good ones" have been snatched up... besides, maybe i will be a good influence on them! yeah, that's it, i will just lead by example..."
Physical characteristics? Sure.
in friends? i am not sure if it is a preference, but i have found that most of my male friends are rather large/intimidating fellows or guys who are into martial arts (at least three quarters of them)... i am more or less convinced that many of my male friends became friends with me because they thought i was decent and needed someone to look out for me... i am not sure of that, but it would explain the pattern... which in a way i think is funny, because i don't think of myself as incompetent in that department, and anyone i have been pissed at hasn't either... anyhow, the women don't seem to notice what the men see (i am often told i make them feel safe)... i have also noticed that the majority of my female friends are physically attractive (at least three fifths of them)... i think this might be because i come across as someone who isn't out to "pounce on them"...
i really don't seek people out based upon physical attributes, so i just have to assume that something about me attracts these kinds of people... perhaps it's just a perk of being a well meaning introvert...
i could tell you about what find visually appealing in women, but the internet is full of that allready... it should suffice to say, that while there are some general things i find "the most attractive" i often find that people with differing qualities can be as (or more attractive) than those that do... this is do in part to having broad tastes and in part dues to mental qualities... even the most attractive person can become repulsive if their mind is...
Other? Yes please!
nope, too bad *sticks out tongue*... normally i might, but i would much rather be obstinate today (and there is nothing you can do about it, neener neener)...
well actually that was a fun way of avoiding the phrase "i can't think of anything else relevant to add"... but then i Did think of something else relevant... anyhow, my refusal was fun so it can stay...
ANYhowww... it is worth noting that i have had friendships that didn't fit into my preferences that were really great... i think that just being with someone long enough in the proper circumstances can forge a bond that might otherwise appear distasteful... it is also worth noting that i am (often, though perhaps not always) open to damn near anyone who wants to seek friendship with me... it may take me longer to reciprocate feelings, but if someone really finds me to be so interesting i feel like i should give them a shot... to do otherwise would be more or less saying "i am to good for you" or "you aren't worth my time"... anyhow, i don't want to be the sort of person that rejects people prior to investigation (which is good because that would be unnatural for me)...