Erm.. I've managed to offend people mostly when I'm not meaning to do so.
I offend people a lot unintentionally too. I think it's the Te or something. I've been told I can seem abrasive, but I have a feeling this is when I am being defensive. Or it's people misreading my shyness & introversion as being stand-offish and rude. I also am less inclined to observe certain social niceties that seem phony to me.
To me, it's all a matter of speaking the other person's language--not what they want to hear, but what you want to say in a way that they can understand and process it. If they haven't received your message, you haven't communicated effectively.
To that end, there's a way to be tactful and to speak to someone on a personal level that's typically more rewarding, productive, and constructive than speaking in an overly direct manner.
Often, values and priorities get challenged when they don't need to be, or even when they can't be. However, know that we can rethink our values in the face of new information, after all.
Definitely agree with this.
NFPs may not be refusing to accept
supposed "hard logic", but the person trying to make a point may not realize they haven't made it as clearly as they imagine they have. I notice people who love to argue and consider themselves "rational" are often blind to the big picture. They get stuck on "facts" and don't take into account human emotions and perspectives. Everything isn't black and white, and I think NFPs see that.
When we encounter these people, who feel they've successfully torn down our beliefs, we're probably internally rolling our eyes because we see their view as very limited, and we've lost all interest in explaining ourselves to someone who has blinders on.
NFPs can argue a point quite well, because as I brought out in my other post, we often use persuasion to appeal to people. It's a lot more subtle & effective because no one feels they are being attacked.
Like nebbykoo says, expending that energy to argue our viewpoint is often not worth it. Why argue with someone who is dead set in their ways? What do you accomplish?