Do you feel bad when you turn an act (which society expects to be altruistic or sacrificing) into a win-win situation?
Example: When I once wrote a love letter to someone, I primarily regarded that love letter as an opportunity to improve my writing style. And secondarily as a means to express my feelings for her.
So when I finished the letter, I felt as if the job was done and didn't really feel like going to the post office. I still did it because that completed the win-win situation: She got a well-written letter and I improved my writing.
Example: When I once wrote a love letter to someone, I primarily regarded that love letter as an opportunity to improve my writing style. And secondarily as a means to express my feelings for her.
So when I finished the letter, I felt as if the job was done and didn't really feel like going to the post office. I still did it because that completed the win-win situation: She got a well-written letter and I improved my writing.