oh i got that you were...but i thought you were asking both of us if we had a problem with theoreticalI was talking to Short. Since she said that I was thinking you will see it.
I was replying to both posts at once there. Sorry.
No. I am emotionally high maintenance and I need a lot of love, affection and attention. I also like to give it.This doesn't sound like it would work for either of us!
On a different note, I could never date anyone who didn't love my dogs. Even Daniel Craig. That's a dealbreaker for me if ever there was one.
Plus I'd probably drive a thinker to the loony bin.
Well you said we could be blunt!
How do you believe it's more about lack of affection and sympathy/empathy?
The questions you ask on the forum lead me to believe you struggle with EQ in any way I've found it defined or presented. Would you say you do any of these averagely to well?
- Perceiving emotions — the ability to detect and decipher emotions in faces, pictures, voices, and cultural artifacts- including the ability to identify one’s own emotions. Perceiving emotions represents a basic aspect of emotional intelligence, as it makes all other processing of emotional information possible.
- Using emotions — the ability to harness emotions to facilitate various cognitive activities, such as thinking and problem solving. The emotionally intelligent person can capitalize fully upon his or her changing moods in order to best fit the task at hand.
- Understanding emotions — the ability to comprehend emotion language and to appreciate complicated relationships among emotions. For example, understanding emotions encompasses the ability to be sensitive to slight variations between emotions, and the ability to recognize and describe how emotions evolve over time.
- Managing emotions — the ability to regulate emotions in both ourselves and in others. Therefore, the emotionally intelligent person can harness emotions, even negative ones, and manage them to achieve intended goals.
OR
- Self-awareness — the ability to read one's emotions and recognize their impact while using gut feelings to guide decisions.
- Self-management — involves controlling one's emotions and impulses and adapting to changing circumstances.
- Social awareness — the ability to sense, understand, and react to others' emotions while comprehending social networks.
- Relationship management — the ability to inspire, influence, and develop others while managing conflict.
He knows how to use the multi-quote feature. . . so maybe.
I always thought you were a guy. Huh. I don't think we'd hit it off.
It's always been my impression that you pretend not to understand a lot of things with the idea that people responding will, in turn, understand those same things ( and other tangents ) better if they have to explain them in detail to you, as the supposed "blank slate." Like a company forced to do "process mapping", or something similar.
I've always believed Ygolo's detached curiosity is for real, however.
lol i also thought you were a guy. I do get along with INTJ's though. I appreciate that they can channel my ideaphoria into a more reasonable, defined direction. even though i myself have very low Fi and Fe, people who tend to have a "lack of empathy" intrigue me more than those who are more emotionally expressive. It would be worth the experiment.
Wait, where did Antisocial mention his/her gender?
It doesn't show on your personal page or whatever that is called. I inferred it when someone responded in this thread "No, I'm a girl" and you said "I know". ( Apologies to the gays. )I was never hidding it.
In this thread and some other threads.
I don't see why people are so excited about my gender?
I was never hidding it.
Why yes, why not ?
In the internetz it's safer to assume someone is male when you don't have proof.
And to answer the topic, now that I know you are a woman, there's nothing I can infer from your forum posts that would turn me off so I guess it's a possibility.
EDIT: You did say "fully straight guy" in your opening post.
I think that this is not that much about emotional inteligence as much as lack of affection and empathy/sympathy.
I was just waiting how long it will take to get replies like those two.
But that does not mean that I have something against them.
Why it is a problem for you if a guy is quite theoretical? (just curious)
Now I have changed that part so that it is perfectly clear. Just in case that I don't understand full meanings of the words.