Mal12345
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A story from an ISTJ:
"I volunteer for a non-profit. Recently the director I had worked with for over 7 years had retired. This past Monday was my first day working with the new director. Over the prior weekend she had expanded the office space to an adjoining section of the building and rearranged everything. Not only did I have to adjust to a new boss, I was blind-sided with a different environment. My personal life is stressful and often overwhelming so my volunteering at this office is my only constant. I know exactly what I will be doing, I know what is expected of me and I am secure in my environment due to knowing where everything is. So, back to Monday. I walk in, see the changes and I am furious. I feel alienated, disrespected because there wasn't any heads up about the planned changes and completely unsettled. Apparently I am the only volunteer unhappy with the changes. I believe I had a justifiable response to the situation, but in between the lines of my resulting conversation with the director, it appears my reaction is being reduced to immature hostility. I don't go off all crazy when I'm pissed, I do the quietly restrained thing while I am clenching my jaw. She did actually say I was hostile towards her. I disagree since I was courteous and respectful towards her the few times she talked to me prior to our closed door conversation. Am I so wrong I should apologize or should I be worried about being pushed out."
I think we've all seen the "quietly restrained jaw-clenching" routine from ISTJs. It's that look that makes me want to just punch them in the face.
The fact that only one person out of, say, 20 people is reacting to the change doesn't matter. You think it's all about you.
And the lack of respect toward you. Oh my! We can't have that.
"I believe I had a justifiable response to the situation." And what was that? Uhhhhh...
Get over it and apologize, you silly git.
"I volunteer for a non-profit. Recently the director I had worked with for over 7 years had retired. This past Monday was my first day working with the new director. Over the prior weekend she had expanded the office space to an adjoining section of the building and rearranged everything. Not only did I have to adjust to a new boss, I was blind-sided with a different environment. My personal life is stressful and often overwhelming so my volunteering at this office is my only constant. I know exactly what I will be doing, I know what is expected of me and I am secure in my environment due to knowing where everything is. So, back to Monday. I walk in, see the changes and I am furious. I feel alienated, disrespected because there wasn't any heads up about the planned changes and completely unsettled. Apparently I am the only volunteer unhappy with the changes. I believe I had a justifiable response to the situation, but in between the lines of my resulting conversation with the director, it appears my reaction is being reduced to immature hostility. I don't go off all crazy when I'm pissed, I do the quietly restrained thing while I am clenching my jaw. She did actually say I was hostile towards her. I disagree since I was courteous and respectful towards her the few times she talked to me prior to our closed door conversation. Am I so wrong I should apologize or should I be worried about being pushed out."
I think we've all seen the "quietly restrained jaw-clenching" routine from ISTJs. It's that look that makes me want to just punch them in the face.
The fact that only one person out of, say, 20 people is reacting to the change doesn't matter. You think it's all about you.
And the lack of respect toward you. Oh my! We can't have that.
"I believe I had a justifiable response to the situation." And what was that? Uhhhhh...
Get over it and apologize, you silly git.