I suppose if a INTJ insulted you, you could miss it, but you couldn't with a ENTJ.
I would be more hurt by the words of an INTJ than ENTJ because INTJs understand people better and are better able to recognize how their actions can hurt people. It also feels more personal with INTJs whereas the Fi of ENTJ is stunted; they don’t choose people based on their understanding of someone’s individual weakness, they choose anyone that can’t speak Te.
ENTJs (especially the young ones) have such fear and awe for the Fi parts of themselves they seem desperate to disguise, safeguard and imprison it from intruding ideas/thoughts/feelings.
Just like an Fi-dom, they are confused on what to do with their inferior function. You’re projecting a lot of negativity onto it, think about it, what do you do with your Te? No ones knows what to do with their inferior, it’s invasive and bewildering.
Often rather than defend a view to an undesirable counterargument they seem to prefer to go on the offensive and attack others; turn things back on the other person rather than internalise the counterargument, evaluate it and consult their own opinion of it.
That sounds like an ENTJ under a lot of stress, they’re much more reasonable and focused usually.
They can run interference on themselves like no other type, and that's why you often get them saying "you're an idiot", when they really mean "I like you" (or "you're an idiot" rather than "I don't want to have to deal with this"). Maturity comes from greater comfort with Fi and being able to internalising the world without freaking out.
I’m not sure I agree that they run interference on themselves. They’re very literal people, what you see is what you get. The only difference between them and ESTJs is that you can get a explanation out of the ESTJ, ENTJ are good at explaining, they just can’t be bothered.
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People have to remember when dealing with ENTJs, you’re dealing with a rougher, more goal-orientated, extroverted, expansive, and efficiency driven version of the INTP. Both aren’t people focused and forget to consider the values and feelings of those around them. The difference is that INTPs are focused on the possibilities of the system, ENTJs are focused on bringing the most efficient possibility to life. One is theoretical, the other is practical.
The other difference is that Te-doms have the least Fe (and since their Fi is baby) of all types therefore they’re the type most likely to dismiss social harmony, values and personal values. This makes them appear merciless and egoistical but they’re not. An ENTJ is the most loyal, hardworking type you’ll meet. They dedicate their lives to improving everyone else’s through practical means just as an Fe-dom dedicates their life to maintaining social values.
Also, in regards to being bullied, in their minds you’re not being bullied, they disregard their Fi and charge through thinking it’s appropriate behavior. Before you judge them, remember your inferior function and what you neglect. Charge back at them, they’ll respect you more. Think about it, you love it when people speak with your functions, therefore ENTJs want you to speak through their functions. Do it, charge back at them, they're hard to offend.
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How come ENTJs are so mean for telling other people what they think and yet, everyone loves to tell ENTJs their negative thoughts about them? This I find to be pretty funny, in an ironic way.
I agree but at the same time, some people genuinely don't understand ENTJs.