i've discovered that i prefer to date Js because i am so P myself. the right kind of J helps me to make decisions i feel secure in, and i really appreciate that about them.
oh, and looking back, i tend to date NFs. interesting.
Poggle said:
As lovers, other ENFP's are the worst. No really, two ENFP's should never ever date.
The worst part is that it *seems* brilliant at the time..
this. this this this. i didn't know about typology at the time, haha. and our likeness was both our source of great happiness and our ultimate doom (DUN DUN DUN). my biggest problem was that i didn't feel like there was any grounding in the relationship. neither of us were particularly rational or particularly organized, and i ended up being the
more rational and organized one - not to mention more committed. i'm a big fan of compromise, but being responsible for both of us was both restricting and draining, and the extra effort wasn't really reciprocated on my SO's part. suffice it to say we are much better as friends.
i have a lot of trouble seeing myself in a relationship with an INTP too, because i have 2 in my immediate family. and while i know and love their wily ways, they tend to always think they're right, and are rather blunt. i kind of like to be finessed.
also i would have 3 INTPs around me all the time and that is A LOT of INTP.
so far, my favorite = ENFJ
i also had a brief thing with an INFP which was incredibly sweet and fun but also a little too removed-from-real-life for me. we never had anything "official", though, and we didn't break up so much as just fade. i definitely still miss that sometimes.