BalanceFind
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i think it might be q Fe>Ti thing here, from Jung's description of Fe-doms (which is more ENFJ but may still hold to a lesser extent):
questioning your past decisions is not a comfortable or emotionally convenient process - who enjoys being wrong? we all want to feel that we where right in everything that we do, we normally feel that we do, or otherwise we wouldn't have done it so, its only by being willing to think thoughts that contradict those feelings that we can process our mistakes and misdeeds, and its possibly the bigger the consequences and the more emotionally loaded the choice was, the harder it would be for an Fe>Ti to process thoughts that contradict those feelings.
as apposed to Ti>Fe, where you pretty much grow to take for granted that your emotions about other people's perspectives and even your own aren't valid, because you will have thoughts contradicting them all the time. its a heart with a bucket of salt.
Some infj's don't like details, and can be overwhelmed by messy, stressful, details. To that I say too bad. I don't like them either. I am an extroverted intuitive. I get it. But details matter, facts matter. In important business matters, they matter a lot. In personal matters, they matter too, just enough to get a clear gist of the situation.
Sometimes focusing only or mostly on introverted intuition can be bad, especially when facts, details, assumptions, hunches are far from correct or accurate.
Being an extrovert, and being a perceiver, I can visit and re-visit anything. Infj's generally speaking have weaker J than other J's.
Instead of using extroverted judgement in haste as protective defense mechanism from overflow of emotions, details, and stress, more balance is needed for perspective. And even when that happens, it isn't the end of the world, calmly re-evaluate and re-approach. This requires a small risk of vulnerability. It isn't much to ask when stakes are high.