Betty Blue
Let me count the ways
- Joined
- Jan 19, 2010
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 7W6
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
It's interesting to me to see the dynamics between the different types. Theres a lot of singled out relationships threads... natural partners etc.
So for myself I will start with a gender overview by saying that I usually get along a lot better with men in general. The women that I do get along well with platonically tend to have very strong personalities, I feel that many 'girly' women find me too intense or heavy or serious.
Of the women I do get along with I find ExTJ's hold their own really well and I have an admiration for their having their stuff together in a way thats out of reach for me. I do like to spend time with these women they also make me feel well protected.
INFJ girls are some of the very few softer women I can get along with. Ofc not all of them. I have had two friendships with INFJ women who just blow my mind. I feel even when I do not communicate with them verbally I can tap into some other spiritual plain with them in some alternate universe. This has a very soothing effect on my soul and is quite magical. They seem to be women who I am slightly in love with again on a different level, not really sexual, seems to transcend that.
ESFP women can be super fun to be around and I find them to be caring and sweet too, though I do not normally find we have very deep connections, they do seem to be loyal and honest friends which means a lot to me.
ESFJ women can be really comforting to me, I love me some fe at times especially the caring feed me up and give me a blanky kind. These relationships tend to fair very well for me when I feel low, they are very dependable and great in a crisis.
IXFP Women I get along well with, if I can crack them , very difficult for me to get to know, i imagine because of my being intense etc, maybe i just frighten many of them off.
INTX women I value from afar, I just don't know many IRL but online I find they have some amazing contributions which i appreciate and learn from. Interaction does seem to be limited but I'm pretty sure there is some mutual understanding. My sister is most likely INTP and much as I love her I do find her to be cold towards me at times, I also know that it's not intentional and that she tries really hard to connect with me and do things she feels are important to maintaining our relationship. In saying this my sisters best friend is likely INTJ and I get on with her really really well. She has a close knit group from school and I always got along best with this particular friend of hers.
ENFX women I don't usually get along with at all for some reason. Some I really love but friendships seem quite strained, I often find them to be really manipulative- maybe I come across the same to them. But then there are some like Valafaye who i dig and just find we are often on the same page in most threads here, and i get along really well with on vent etc... so I do dig some... just not that many, maybe more so the emotionally mature and balanced ones.
Not sure if I missed any types out here.
Romantically I have tended to be attracted to ISTP and INFJ women, and introverts in general It is more uniform that romantic attraction to men. Which is interesting.
Ugh long post, will maybe come back and address non female relations next. Be interested to hear from others.
So for myself I will start with a gender overview by saying that I usually get along a lot better with men in general. The women that I do get along well with platonically tend to have very strong personalities, I feel that many 'girly' women find me too intense or heavy or serious.
Of the women I do get along with I find ExTJ's hold their own really well and I have an admiration for their having their stuff together in a way thats out of reach for me. I do like to spend time with these women they also make me feel well protected.
INFJ girls are some of the very few softer women I can get along with. Ofc not all of them. I have had two friendships with INFJ women who just blow my mind. I feel even when I do not communicate with them verbally I can tap into some other spiritual plain with them in some alternate universe. This has a very soothing effect on my soul and is quite magical. They seem to be women who I am slightly in love with again on a different level, not really sexual, seems to transcend that.
ESFP women can be super fun to be around and I find them to be caring and sweet too, though I do not normally find we have very deep connections, they do seem to be loyal and honest friends which means a lot to me.
ESFJ women can be really comforting to me, I love me some fe at times especially the caring feed me up and give me a blanky kind. These relationships tend to fair very well for me when I feel low, they are very dependable and great in a crisis.
IXFP Women I get along well with, if I can crack them , very difficult for me to get to know, i imagine because of my being intense etc, maybe i just frighten many of them off.
INTX women I value from afar, I just don't know many IRL but online I find they have some amazing contributions which i appreciate and learn from. Interaction does seem to be limited but I'm pretty sure there is some mutual understanding. My sister is most likely INTP and much as I love her I do find her to be cold towards me at times, I also know that it's not intentional and that she tries really hard to connect with me and do things she feels are important to maintaining our relationship. In saying this my sisters best friend is likely INTJ and I get on with her really really well. She has a close knit group from school and I always got along best with this particular friend of hers.
ENFX women I don't usually get along with at all for some reason. Some I really love but friendships seem quite strained, I often find them to be really manipulative- maybe I come across the same to them. But then there are some like Valafaye who i dig and just find we are often on the same page in most threads here, and i get along really well with on vent etc... so I do dig some... just not that many, maybe more so the emotionally mature and balanced ones.
Not sure if I missed any types out here.
Romantically I have tended to be attracted to ISTP and INFJ women, and introverts in general It is more uniform that romantic attraction to men. Which is interesting.
Ugh long post, will maybe come back and address non female relations next. Be interested to hear from others.