treetophideaway
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- Jan 2, 2017
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Where do we get our interests from, specifically the ones that are very different from what we learn from our families growing up? This probably delves somewhat or maybe a lot into the whole nature vs. nurture thing. I stand somewhere in the middle I guess. I want to say I lean more towards nurture because I know we learn most our habits and interests from those we are raised by/those we observe, but I have to believe some of it is within our nature as well because I personally have interests/habits that I have no idea where they come from which make me seem like the oddball of my family. It's those things that I'm wondering where they come from, where I learned them or picked them up from. I can't say I learned them from my family or even my close friends. They're just things that seemed to be ingrained in my personality, but where did they come from. Like for instance, I love getting piercings but most of my family is very conservative and anti-piercing. I never really had pets growing up, but yet my brother is a dog/fish person and I am definitely a cat person. I love Chinese food, but I never once had Chinese food growing up in my house. I always wanted to try Chinese food even though I'd never had it. These things that we're interested in but have no learned basis for being interested in - where do these interests come from? My family sees some of my interests as some type of rebelliousness, but it's not. I don't get piercings because my parents hate them; I just like them. I don't hate girly, lacy, frilly, floral things because that's how my sister dresses; I just think they're ugly. So I don't know where I picked up interests that I didn't learn. I didn't learn them from anyone around me and once I found these interests I had to seek out people with similar interests. When I tried to explain this thought to my family/friends, they said it didn't make sense so I'm hoping some of you will understand what I'm saying here. Thoughts/opinions?