SwimmerGal97
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Hiya, I'm fairly certain I'm an introvert but beyond that I'm not sure what my type is! I filled in this questionnaire as honestly as I could, any thoughts on type or functions that stand out?
Section A: The Basics
Describe your ideal day/night in.
Food and films! I would start waking early and make myself breakfast (waffles with syrup and fresh fruit) and watch the sun rise. I’d spend the morning just catching up on the news, check my emails, do some drawing. Seeing as I’m confined to the house I’d spend a few hours watching my favourite daytime TV shows (Grand Designs, Escape to the Country, Love your Garden etc…yes, I’m that sad. I have a soft spot for property shows) and just eat my favourite snacks. In the evening I’d make a meal- my comfort is usually a lasagne or pork and apple sausages with sweet potato wedges, caramelised red onion and a boat load of thick gravy. And dessert (apple crumble and custard is my go to). Then I’d retreat to my room where I’d curl up under a blanket in my pjs with my yummy food and watch a film.
Describe your ideal day/night out.
A warm breakfast then out of the house as soon as possible. It’s winter here so I’ll go with my ideal winter day. I’d have a steaming bowl of porridge then the family and I would head out to a National Park for a frosty walk through a forest, over the moors, by a lake etc. I’d have amazing photographic opportunities and it would feel really remote, like we were the only people in the world. We’d head to the local villages where I’d admire the quaint stone cottages with their painted front doors and wish for the zillionth time I lived somewhere rural. Then we’d make it to the local pub for a proper pub lunch and a hot chocolate (with marshmallows obviously). Given that it’s winter we’d probably head home quite early and I’m not really into going out in terms of clubs so we’d just have a chill evening in front of the fire then an early bed after an exhausting hike!
In summer the National Park would be a beach where I’d spend all day alternating between body boarding and sunbathing with a mid afternoon walk for some stunning beach photography. We’d get fresh, local fish and chips and icecream for lunch, have a BBQ on the beach and watch the sunset at tea time then go for a short walk under the stars on a clear summers night before heading to bed.
List five things you like about yourself.
My ability to see things from multiple perspectives, I can be an efficient leader, I appreciate the little things in life like the changing seasons naturally, I have an artistic eye so can create pretty good images with pencils, paint or a camera
List five things you dislike about yourself.
I’m fickle and change my mind a lot, I tend to isolate myself, I think too much about the future and how things will be better when ‘X’ has happened, I’m socially a little awkward, I procrastinate way too much
What do you consider your skills/qualities?
Getting along with a wide variety of people. It might be an act but I’m very good at working out how another person works and getting them to agree with me. I don’t really do this a lot but it’s useful for things like group projects when you need clashing personalities to work together to get a job done. Often I surprise myself in that I can almost always ‘dig a little deeper’ and find a way to push through something difficult even when I thought I’d quit.
Section B: Digging Deeper
What is your general outlook on life/the world?
There’s so much out there- but I don’t know what to do or what I’m doing. There is no right or wrong really. I think life is what you make it.
Do you believe you have a purpose in life? If so, what is it?
I’d love to have a purpose and know what I’m meant to do but alas I don’t. Or if I do, I have no clue what it is. I’ve always felt restless and not quite satisfied. Maybe there’s something I’ll find to help that feeling or maybe it comes from within and I’ll feel satisfied through routine and just living day to day. Whatever the answer- I don’t know what it is yet. People say it’s common to feel like that in your twenties but I’ve felt like that all my life.
How do you typically bond with other people? (i.e. slowly or quickly, through what type of activities, etc.)
Veeeery slowly. I can be friendly with most, even if I’m not great at holding a conversation I can find common ground and some sort of connection with most people. However it’s generally a very shallow connection, one to just fit in. The only people I feel really bonded to are my very close family and pets. Friendships tend to come and go, people kind of slip out of my life and I admittedly don’t make much of effort to maintain those relationships.
What do you find yourself thinking about most frequently?
Memories, the future and general daydreams. Fond memories provide comfort and I enjoy thinking about my options, even though I know they’re often farfetched, without actually committing to anything. My daydreams are kinda like a bad fantasy film or novel…often they involve ordinary settings but with magic and me beating up some bad guys and being cool and sassy.
What are you most afraid of?
Life passing me by and me having done nothing and still feeling discontent. Ending up just going through life in a daze, living in a place I don’t like, doing a job I don’t like.
What traits do you admire in others?
Confidence, people who know their own mind yet aren’t completely closeminded or ignorant. Those who strike the balance between being able to stand up for themselves and being tough without thinking it means they have to be stand-offish or confrontational or prove how independent and tough they are. They’re qualities I think I have but want to continually develop.
What traits annoy you in others?
Angry, confrontational, bullying people. People who continually belittle others due to their own insecurities. People who post on social media about drink/drugs thinking it makes them look cool and mature when they just look like idiots. Oh and also people who get waaay too intense in relationships really soon or make posts about how much they miss or love their S/O with ridiculous emojis (especially the monkey....they monkey annoys me). I'm the least romantic person on the planet even when in a relationship....perhaps that's why mine never work!
What was your childhood like?
Happy! My parents gave me as much as they could, I had a good size homes and holidays that I’ll remember forever. I was quite a bossy child and a suck up in school. I excelled in art and English, was good at science and had practically no grasp of maths. I was really good at those visual puzzles in the 11+ though! I was book obsessed- the more books in the series, we’re talking over 50 books in a series! Unicorns, mermaids, fairies…anything magical. It’s where I’ve got my tendency to daydream about everyday life interspersed with magic. I was kinda bossy and when I was very young (around 10 ish) I would take on every leadership role I could. School councillor, eco councillor, road safety officer, office monitor, library monitor, playground monitor….however as I got older I lost interest in leading and taking on those sorts of roles. I’m still a fair and very efficient leader when I need to be though (according to my tutor, not me being arrogant there!).
What do you want most for yourself?
To feel content. Somehow. I’m not interested in fancy jobs or cars. I just want to work out what makes me happy.
I often feel very conflicted between my ‘sensible’ and ‘optimistic’ sides. One side says to get a degree and learn to appreciate what I have. The other side says what’s sensible about settling for what you don’t really enjoy? I often have urges to run away and start fresh. I don’t give into these urges though because otherwise I’d end up with no degree, no job, no nothing. But a part of me says ‘so what? Go and find something that genuinely makes you happy!’. Interestingly though, I’m actually drawn to things that are familiar. I don’t really like trying new things…which is all very contradictory! I just feel very restless and maybe should force myself out of my comfort zone a bit more.
What do you want most for others?
For them to get on with their lives and make choices without other people getting involved (particularly thinking about people who get pressured by their parents to follow particular careers. I’ve no doubt that parents have the best intentions 99.9% of the time but I think it should be personal choice).
Section C: Interests and Values
What are your favorite things to talk about?
I’m not particularly chatty but anything from the weather, to what I did at weekend to future plans I’ve made.
What are the five most important things to you?
Family, pets, food, having my own time, feeling content
What do you think the world needs more of?
People who appreciate that the formal education system sucks and there’s more important things than being mega rich and having fancy things. I’m a student and frequently feel pressured that unless I follow the GCSE- A-level- Degree - Graduate placement mould then I’m a failure even though I know that’s not the case. I’ve spent years having people tell me that I have to do things a certain way and that certain choices will leave me with no life prospects, that the most important thing is that I get a good degree and respectable job. And there’s always tension when I push back and say actually, this is all a load of rubbish. Why would I do a degree I don’t want to end up in a job I don’t want so I could get a decent house and other things that I ‘d never have the time to appreciate because I’m always working my crappy job? No thankyou.
What do you think the world needs less of?
People who get offended over every tiny thing.
What is your favourite quote? What significance does it hold for you and why?
I don’t really have a favourite quote but ones I often think ‘tomorrow is another day’. For me it’s about not letting anything negative influence me for extended periods of time and reminding myself that I am in control of my life. Sure, all actions have consequences and practicalities that need to be put in place but what’s actually stopping me from quitting everything and starting fresh? I find that a lot of the time when people say they ‘can’t’ do something it’s because they’re scared of the outcome not being like they hoped, or because sometimes it’s easier to just blame someone else for your misery rather than risking failing and admitted to everyone you massively c*cked up.
The other one that stands out to me is ‘where there’s a will there’s a way’. Pretty self explanatory. If you want something enough then you make it happen. Or else you didn’t want it all that much. Circumstances might prevent something from happening regardless of how hard a person tries, but it reminds me to think 'have I really exhausted all my options?'
Section A: The Basics
Describe your ideal day/night in.
Food and films! I would start waking early and make myself breakfast (waffles with syrup and fresh fruit) and watch the sun rise. I’d spend the morning just catching up on the news, check my emails, do some drawing. Seeing as I’m confined to the house I’d spend a few hours watching my favourite daytime TV shows (Grand Designs, Escape to the Country, Love your Garden etc…yes, I’m that sad. I have a soft spot for property shows) and just eat my favourite snacks. In the evening I’d make a meal- my comfort is usually a lasagne or pork and apple sausages with sweet potato wedges, caramelised red onion and a boat load of thick gravy. And dessert (apple crumble and custard is my go to). Then I’d retreat to my room where I’d curl up under a blanket in my pjs with my yummy food and watch a film.
Describe your ideal day/night out.
A warm breakfast then out of the house as soon as possible. It’s winter here so I’ll go with my ideal winter day. I’d have a steaming bowl of porridge then the family and I would head out to a National Park for a frosty walk through a forest, over the moors, by a lake etc. I’d have amazing photographic opportunities and it would feel really remote, like we were the only people in the world. We’d head to the local villages where I’d admire the quaint stone cottages with their painted front doors and wish for the zillionth time I lived somewhere rural. Then we’d make it to the local pub for a proper pub lunch and a hot chocolate (with marshmallows obviously). Given that it’s winter we’d probably head home quite early and I’m not really into going out in terms of clubs so we’d just have a chill evening in front of the fire then an early bed after an exhausting hike!
In summer the National Park would be a beach where I’d spend all day alternating between body boarding and sunbathing with a mid afternoon walk for some stunning beach photography. We’d get fresh, local fish and chips and icecream for lunch, have a BBQ on the beach and watch the sunset at tea time then go for a short walk under the stars on a clear summers night before heading to bed.
List five things you like about yourself.
My ability to see things from multiple perspectives, I can be an efficient leader, I appreciate the little things in life like the changing seasons naturally, I have an artistic eye so can create pretty good images with pencils, paint or a camera
List five things you dislike about yourself.
I’m fickle and change my mind a lot, I tend to isolate myself, I think too much about the future and how things will be better when ‘X’ has happened, I’m socially a little awkward, I procrastinate way too much
What do you consider your skills/qualities?
Getting along with a wide variety of people. It might be an act but I’m very good at working out how another person works and getting them to agree with me. I don’t really do this a lot but it’s useful for things like group projects when you need clashing personalities to work together to get a job done. Often I surprise myself in that I can almost always ‘dig a little deeper’ and find a way to push through something difficult even when I thought I’d quit.
Section B: Digging Deeper
What is your general outlook on life/the world?
There’s so much out there- but I don’t know what to do or what I’m doing. There is no right or wrong really. I think life is what you make it.
Do you believe you have a purpose in life? If so, what is it?
I’d love to have a purpose and know what I’m meant to do but alas I don’t. Or if I do, I have no clue what it is. I’ve always felt restless and not quite satisfied. Maybe there’s something I’ll find to help that feeling or maybe it comes from within and I’ll feel satisfied through routine and just living day to day. Whatever the answer- I don’t know what it is yet. People say it’s common to feel like that in your twenties but I’ve felt like that all my life.
How do you typically bond with other people? (i.e. slowly or quickly, through what type of activities, etc.)
Veeeery slowly. I can be friendly with most, even if I’m not great at holding a conversation I can find common ground and some sort of connection with most people. However it’s generally a very shallow connection, one to just fit in. The only people I feel really bonded to are my very close family and pets. Friendships tend to come and go, people kind of slip out of my life and I admittedly don’t make much of effort to maintain those relationships.
What do you find yourself thinking about most frequently?
Memories, the future and general daydreams. Fond memories provide comfort and I enjoy thinking about my options, even though I know they’re often farfetched, without actually committing to anything. My daydreams are kinda like a bad fantasy film or novel…often they involve ordinary settings but with magic and me beating up some bad guys and being cool and sassy.
What are you most afraid of?
Life passing me by and me having done nothing and still feeling discontent. Ending up just going through life in a daze, living in a place I don’t like, doing a job I don’t like.
What traits do you admire in others?
Confidence, people who know their own mind yet aren’t completely closeminded or ignorant. Those who strike the balance between being able to stand up for themselves and being tough without thinking it means they have to be stand-offish or confrontational or prove how independent and tough they are. They’re qualities I think I have but want to continually develop.
What traits annoy you in others?
Angry, confrontational, bullying people. People who continually belittle others due to their own insecurities. People who post on social media about drink/drugs thinking it makes them look cool and mature when they just look like idiots. Oh and also people who get waaay too intense in relationships really soon or make posts about how much they miss or love their S/O with ridiculous emojis (especially the monkey....they monkey annoys me). I'm the least romantic person on the planet even when in a relationship....perhaps that's why mine never work!
What was your childhood like?
Happy! My parents gave me as much as they could, I had a good size homes and holidays that I’ll remember forever. I was quite a bossy child and a suck up in school. I excelled in art and English, was good at science and had practically no grasp of maths. I was really good at those visual puzzles in the 11+ though! I was book obsessed- the more books in the series, we’re talking over 50 books in a series! Unicorns, mermaids, fairies…anything magical. It’s where I’ve got my tendency to daydream about everyday life interspersed with magic. I was kinda bossy and when I was very young (around 10 ish) I would take on every leadership role I could. School councillor, eco councillor, road safety officer, office monitor, library monitor, playground monitor….however as I got older I lost interest in leading and taking on those sorts of roles. I’m still a fair and very efficient leader when I need to be though (according to my tutor, not me being arrogant there!).
What do you want most for yourself?
To feel content. Somehow. I’m not interested in fancy jobs or cars. I just want to work out what makes me happy.
I often feel very conflicted between my ‘sensible’ and ‘optimistic’ sides. One side says to get a degree and learn to appreciate what I have. The other side says what’s sensible about settling for what you don’t really enjoy? I often have urges to run away and start fresh. I don’t give into these urges though because otherwise I’d end up with no degree, no job, no nothing. But a part of me says ‘so what? Go and find something that genuinely makes you happy!’. Interestingly though, I’m actually drawn to things that are familiar. I don’t really like trying new things…which is all very contradictory! I just feel very restless and maybe should force myself out of my comfort zone a bit more.
What do you want most for others?
For them to get on with their lives and make choices without other people getting involved (particularly thinking about people who get pressured by their parents to follow particular careers. I’ve no doubt that parents have the best intentions 99.9% of the time but I think it should be personal choice).
Section C: Interests and Values
What are your favorite things to talk about?
I’m not particularly chatty but anything from the weather, to what I did at weekend to future plans I’ve made.
What are the five most important things to you?
Family, pets, food, having my own time, feeling content
What do you think the world needs more of?
People who appreciate that the formal education system sucks and there’s more important things than being mega rich and having fancy things. I’m a student and frequently feel pressured that unless I follow the GCSE- A-level- Degree - Graduate placement mould then I’m a failure even though I know that’s not the case. I’ve spent years having people tell me that I have to do things a certain way and that certain choices will leave me with no life prospects, that the most important thing is that I get a good degree and respectable job. And there’s always tension when I push back and say actually, this is all a load of rubbish. Why would I do a degree I don’t want to end up in a job I don’t want so I could get a decent house and other things that I ‘d never have the time to appreciate because I’m always working my crappy job? No thankyou.
What do you think the world needs less of?
People who get offended over every tiny thing.
What is your favourite quote? What significance does it hold for you and why?
I don’t really have a favourite quote but ones I often think ‘tomorrow is another day’. For me it’s about not letting anything negative influence me for extended periods of time and reminding myself that I am in control of my life. Sure, all actions have consequences and practicalities that need to be put in place but what’s actually stopping me from quitting everything and starting fresh? I find that a lot of the time when people say they ‘can’t’ do something it’s because they’re scared of the outcome not being like they hoped, or because sometimes it’s easier to just blame someone else for your misery rather than risking failing and admitted to everyone you massively c*cked up.
The other one that stands out to me is ‘where there’s a will there’s a way’. Pretty self explanatory. If you want something enough then you make it happen. Or else you didn’t want it all that much. Circumstances might prevent something from happening regardless of how hard a person tries, but it reminds me to think 'have I really exhausted all my options?'