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And since this means so much to you, I will continue. But this advice is for one specific person in my life:
You don't need my input on every single decision in your life. I hate going shopping with you because you rely so heavily on what I think, but what I'm really thinking is that you are shallow and insecure. Get your own opinion of yourself and don't worry about what I'm thinking.
Before you rush to make a judgment about someone's intentions, think it through. Just do yourself a favor and give people the benefit of the doubt sometimes. Not everyone has an ulterior motive. And the fact that you think everyone does makes me think that you do. And that creeps me out.
I already mentioned the criticism, but I feel it's warranted for me to say it again. Just because I give you advice (which you asked me for) and it's not exactly what you want to hear, does not give you the right to badger me to death. I am tired of you lashing out at me for hours, then actually processing what I said, only to come back later and apologize for jumping to conclusions. It would save us both a lot of grief if you didn't jump to conclusions in the first place.
When you are wrong, just admit it and move on. The world will not fall apart.
But the constant justifications make me hate you. Just say sorry.
And for pete's sake, just speak up about what you want. I'm not a mind reader and I won't try. Feeling too guilty or ashamed to admit that you are a human being with needs is the most difficult part in dealing with you. So silently seethe at me and feel guilt at yourself, while I am just thinking everything is perfect. Why suffer in silence? Just tell me, or tell someone else to tell me. Or write me a friggin' note. Just, for the love of all things holy, speak up for yourself! I know you can do it because I see you speak up for everyone else all the time. Why do you put your own welfare behind those of everyone else's? I want to actually hear what you like and dislike and I want you to be happy.
Fin.