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MyPeeSmellsLikeCoffee247
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I've been thinking about some of my past relationships and personality types. I had two serious relationships before my husband (lots of less important ones, who might be harder for me to type). I'm thinking their types were ESTJ and INTP.
When I think about things that did and didn't work for me with these guys, it's interesting to see how they match up with their personalities.
ESTJ: He was a very good "traditional" boyfriend. Bought me flowers and gifts, took me on dates, etc. He took me to parties, and we had a lot of fun dancing and living it up together. He was also really sensitive and sweet which I liked. What I disliked was his need to be so manly (wanting to get ripped, being overly confident in groups), how much importance he placed on status/image (he's a doctor now, and I feel like he wanted me to be his smart and sexy trophy wife and we'd have the nicest cars and the biggest house, blah blah blah), and we didn't connect on things like art and music and things (I think I needed some N to connect with in retrospect). Now he's with a super hot blonde who I'm sure is very smart. I don't think he'd have it any other way, haha.
INTP: He was a lot "cooler" to me initially. Punk kid who played in a band and wrote songs in his room. We went on lots of adventures together, played like kids, had lots of deep convos, and wrote and played music together. He had the tendency to be a little melancholy and moody, so I liked being able to be there for him through that, and to cheer him up sometimes. What did not work was how jealous and irrationally angry he'd become. He was really suspicious and I didn't get that. I didn't like when he was suspicious of others, but I hated when it involved me. He always said it was just other guys he didn't trust, but he'd accuse me of flirting and get really angry when I talked to other guys. He also didn't want to grow up, and I was ready to stop the party all the time life we were living and start working toward my career. Now he's with a girl who's a little more hardcore (probably doesn't put up with jealousy and will party a little harder than I wanted to).
So, what are some types of your exes? What did and didn't work about their personalities combined with yours? Also, any critiques of my hack-job analyses are always welcomed and appreciated. Just be nice please.
When I think about things that did and didn't work for me with these guys, it's interesting to see how they match up with their personalities.
ESTJ: He was a very good "traditional" boyfriend. Bought me flowers and gifts, took me on dates, etc. He took me to parties, and we had a lot of fun dancing and living it up together. He was also really sensitive and sweet which I liked. What I disliked was his need to be so manly (wanting to get ripped, being overly confident in groups), how much importance he placed on status/image (he's a doctor now, and I feel like he wanted me to be his smart and sexy trophy wife and we'd have the nicest cars and the biggest house, blah blah blah), and we didn't connect on things like art and music and things (I think I needed some N to connect with in retrospect). Now he's with a super hot blonde who I'm sure is very smart. I don't think he'd have it any other way, haha.
INTP: He was a lot "cooler" to me initially. Punk kid who played in a band and wrote songs in his room. We went on lots of adventures together, played like kids, had lots of deep convos, and wrote and played music together. He had the tendency to be a little melancholy and moody, so I liked being able to be there for him through that, and to cheer him up sometimes. What did not work was how jealous and irrationally angry he'd become. He was really suspicious and I didn't get that. I didn't like when he was suspicious of others, but I hated when it involved me. He always said it was just other guys he didn't trust, but he'd accuse me of flirting and get really angry when I talked to other guys. He also didn't want to grow up, and I was ready to stop the party all the time life we were living and start working toward my career. Now he's with a girl who's a little more hardcore (probably doesn't put up with jealousy and will party a little harder than I wanted to).
So, what are some types of your exes? What did and didn't work about their personalities combined with yours? Also, any critiques of my hack-job analyses are always welcomed and appreciated. Just be nice please.