StarFollowed
Stardust
- Joined
- Jul 12, 2016
- Messages
- 79
- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 4w3
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
(Disclaimer: My post is not meant to cause offense. I’m just stating my observations.)
I don’t believe I’m extremly tiny, but people tell me all the time that I’m going to “blow away in the wind†and that there’s “nothing to meâ€. My BMI is around 19-20, and although I live in an image-conscious city (in NorCal), what I tend to see most is skinny-shaming anyone who is either short or slender or both, as in, certain sizes are deemed to be less acceptable (0,2) if you’re over a certain age regardless of height and build. For some reason, my family members, and even strangers and friends, think it’s okay to tell me to put on weight because of my size or because “women look better with more weight on them.†When I was a teenager, and still living with my parents, my mother would point out people who were around size 4s and size 6s and tell me that they looked better than me, or that a “fuller face is always more attractive.â€
I have a theory that once a type 4 takes in body image and health and size into the image that fits within their ideals, they will work hard to maintain it unless the ideal, for whatever reason, changes. I understand that body weight is not an enneagram type, but I can’t help but wonder if:
1. Type Fours tend to be image and health conscious than the average population
2. No matter how overweight we are, we will still appear tinier than people of the same stats.
I also have noticed that with myself, as a type Four, I’m very prone to judging people who don’t share my ideals in terms of fitness or body size. For instance, I’m learning that just because I value looking a certain way, it does not mean that everyone else will. Still, deep down, I don’t believe it’s okay for anyone to get fat.
Any type Fours out there who have noticed similar trends? [MENTION=6561]OrangeAppled[/MENTION]
I don’t believe I’m extremly tiny, but people tell me all the time that I’m going to “blow away in the wind†and that there’s “nothing to meâ€. My BMI is around 19-20, and although I live in an image-conscious city (in NorCal), what I tend to see most is skinny-shaming anyone who is either short or slender or both, as in, certain sizes are deemed to be less acceptable (0,2) if you’re over a certain age regardless of height and build. For some reason, my family members, and even strangers and friends, think it’s okay to tell me to put on weight because of my size or because “women look better with more weight on them.†When I was a teenager, and still living with my parents, my mother would point out people who were around size 4s and size 6s and tell me that they looked better than me, or that a “fuller face is always more attractive.â€
I have a theory that once a type 4 takes in body image and health and size into the image that fits within their ideals, they will work hard to maintain it unless the ideal, for whatever reason, changes. I understand that body weight is not an enneagram type, but I can’t help but wonder if:
1. Type Fours tend to be image and health conscious than the average population
2. No matter how overweight we are, we will still appear tinier than people of the same stats.
I also have noticed that with myself, as a type Four, I’m very prone to judging people who don’t share my ideals in terms of fitness or body size. For instance, I’m learning that just because I value looking a certain way, it does not mean that everyone else will. Still, deep down, I don’t believe it’s okay for anyone to get fat.
Any type Fours out there who have noticed similar trends? [MENTION=6561]OrangeAppled[/MENTION]