Interesting. It looks like there's a lot of fondness for every type, but most fours so far have issues with Ones.
For me, the flavor of the wing, tritype and Jungian type, and the instinctual variants have a lot to do with what attracts me to different types.
8w7- I admire them from afar, but in my experience I'm just too emotionally soft for them, and they often dislike my abundant sensitivity. So/Sx variants might be easiest for me to get along with, but I often feel "bullied" by Mavericks, even though I know they might not mean to be hurtful. I appreciate the honesty, but it's just too offhand and immediate.
8w9- Again, maybe too intense, but I can relate to them so well. Unfortunately, I mostly know STJ-types who are 8w9's, so I've come to expect a lot of misunderstandings in relationships with them. If I met an NF 8w9 of any instinctual variant it might change my mind. I find their occasional vindictiveness a bit puzzling sometimes, but most I've known are drawn to nature and care deeply for animals and people in need, which I respect. I also like their cozy protectiveness.
9w8- Could be fun. Could also be really dangerous. Since I'm a 4 with a 9w8 in my tritype, there's a lot of potential for interesting heated conflict followed by long periods of avoidance and pretending things aren't as bad as they are between us. But I'd feel free to say or do nearly anything and truly be myself with a 9w8. Since they're a gut type first, they'd likely help me get more in touch with my body, and help me relax and challenge myself. If I met an SP 9w8, I feel like there could be fireworks.
9w1- I grew up with a lot of 9w1s around, and I love their balanced nature. The only thing is, their repressive nature is a bit hard on me, because when I want to talk things through, they lock themselves up. I can't deal with the "everything's fine, forget about it" attitude. But, their energy is beautiful and enchanting to me, and makes me feel like I'm steady enough to get things done with them around, without feeling pressured.
1w9- I tend to avoid 1w9s in general. I just automatically feel like they're disappointed in me no matter what, and that's stifling. 1w9 don't even need to say anything and I know that while they might see me as having "a lot of potential," they're consistently irritated with my inability to get my life together. Especially variants with sp.
1w2- I just can't help feeling that they always think they know what's best for me. And as much as they try to explain their good intentions, I just have a hard time buying it. I'm working on friendships with 1w2's, but they tend to be rocky, and I have to keep my distance or else I feel like calling them out on every last potential assumption.
2w1- Maybe. A 2w1 in a 259, 295, 296, or 278 tritype (more likely an IN type). They can have a nice harmony with my heart fix, I find, if they're subdued and introverted. And the intuition makes it easier to talk about potential clinginess/avoidance issues. My mom's an INFP 269. Lots of anxiety about leaving people to their own devices unless someone can reassure her they'll be fine on their own.
2w3- Only a T-type, I think. I'd start to feel like an F-type was gushing and overly affectionate toward everyone to really feel like they thought I was anything special. I'd probably be extremely jealous of anyone else they spent their time with, if I'm being honest. And my so/sx stacking would make me wish I was as loved and affectionate as they were. I'd feel very inadequate and ignored.
3w2- I couldn't see this working unless the heart fix was buried in the tritype. 793, maybe? Or even 953. With 1 or 8 in the mix, they'd just be too much of a superhuman for my liking, and I'd feel like they were just putting up with me. Possibly b/c my e9 side would have trouble valuing the whole "recognition" thing, which might make me feel like I'm in a relationship with a complete stranger.
3w4- More likely than 3w2. 3w4's are extraordinary. They have just enough 4-ish quirk, aesthetic drama and intensity to keep me interested in what they're going to try to do next, and being a 3 they'd have a "coolness" to them that would make me feel confident and willing to dream big. We'd have a mutual understanding of the importance of our unique abilities, and I could see us really supporting each other. But the hidden insecurity and tendency to feel inferior even if they did something I could never dream of doing would annoy me. But not so much that I think it'd be a huge issue. But again, I like 3 with 9 a lot more than with 8 or 1.
4w3- My sister's a 4w3, and I've had some 4w3 friends. Too dramatic and emotionally volatile and unpredictable for me. The continual disappointment when things don't work out just right is heartbreaking for me, and I feel like I couldn't really be there for them since their pain would only amplify my own.
4w5- it might be interesting. But my experience shows that we tend to drag each other into a dark hole of ever-increasing nihilism. We'd likely just end up getting consumed talking about the darkest of our thoughts, and if we painfully misunderstood the subtleties in each others' analyses of these thoughts, we'd likely start to drift apart. Also, we'd have to remain deadlocked in mutual non-criticism, lest one of us become the "counsellor" in the relationship. It'd start to feel like being in a relationship with a One.
5w4- I especially love NP 5w4's, but I honestly think that 5's just don't have enough fire to keep me interested in a relationship with them. Sure, we could talk about interesting ideas all the day long, but unless they were an so-type, I'd feel like I was dragging them out to talk to people (because I like interacting with interesting people from time to time), and I wouldn't want them to be uncomfortable with my social lifestyle.
5w6- Can be quite dry for my taste relationship-wise. Great friends, but I don't know if there would be enough intensity in the relationship. Even an sx type would have that sx-6 energy that I find a bit menacing and overly reactive. I don't need that kind of conspiracy injected into my already dark 4w5/5w4 nihilism.
6w5- Again, I LOVE them as friends, but it gets exhausting weeding through the constant skepticism. I also don't necessarily gravitate toward ambivalence or caution in relationships. I'm too adventurous for that.
6w7/7w6- Similar to 2w3- I'd often feel "left out of the party." These types have a tendency to forget I even exist because they're out and about. Also, the 6's intense emotion with the 7's intense adventurousness makes me really nervous! I like it when people do things that they're willing to completely throw themselves into. Doubt, worry and impulsiveness in a person makes me feel like I'll have to be the constant pessimist, telling them that things aren't going to work out as well as they're banking on. I also would hate being asked my opinion if they're going to just do whatever they want anyway.
7w8- I really love 7w8's! I think they're the winners. Every time I'm around a 7w8, my life turns into an exciting adventure where anything's possible, and doubt isn't even part of the picture. I could especially see myself with a 793, 739, 794, or 741. 7w8's usually have sharp and curious enough minds to hear out my imaginative ideas, and almost never think of them as overly odd or ridiculous. Usually they're very affirming and say "you know, you could totally do X with that idea! Wanna try it?" Their willingness to throw rules out the window and awesome planning skills compensate for my type 4 lack of energy and pessimism, but love of adventure and drama. Their rationalism is romantic enough that I'm never bothered by the fact that they can be a bit steely and sometimes go too far with their aggressiveness. But compared with 8w7's, I feel like the e7's fundamental idealism would be easier for me to deal with than the e8's rugged realism.
I think my ideal match might be a 7w8-3w4-9w8. But what are the chances!? They probably would never notice me anyway, off on some crazy adventure while I'm hiding in my little cave writing or something. *sigh.* (Isn't there something about 4's having issues with wanting to attract an ego-ideal who embodies everything they're not? I think that might actually be a thing...)