My best understanding for why it is considered bad is that it is sort of like telling God that you don't care that he made man and woman to be together, that you are going to do it your way and he can like it or lump it.
An interesting story is one of david praying in the window despite that he was told flat out not to do so or he'd be killed for it. He did it anyway, because he believed his love for god meant he was willing to endure hardship, ridicule, and even death, for that love.
Would it not make sense that being born with a significant preferance towards being gay would be merely a test of oneself? Why do we automatically assume that it's a "test" with the goal of avoiding love so that yeu can instead pursue lust (give up on someone yeu care about because it's a "sin" and instead marry someone just so yeu can have sex?), when the reverse makes more sense?
What I know is that it's really not my business to go around telling other people how to live, especially when it's not something I've ever had to struggle with and can't hope to understand. I have enough sin in my own life to work on without chucking rocks at people who aren't really hurting anyone else.
If only everyone else could do this... I don't see why people feel the need to force other people to live their lives as THEY want them to live such. It's not yeur life, go away. Badgering me isn't going to make yeur own problems go away, it's just a temporary distraction at best.
I suppose some people just can't see things from different perspectives at all, or just don't care to even try. It always has to be *THEIR* way, without even considering alternatives. If we really could just accept that we've got enough problems on our own that we don't need to be heaping our problems onto other people arbitrarily, we'd probably get along alot better as a whole, and I'm relatively sure the whole purpose of most religions these days is to do just that.
I also deeply value religious freedom and civil rights, and for that reason, I believe we ought recognize legal domestic partnerships for both homosexual and heterosexual couples and let churches decide how they want to define marriage as a religious institution.
Yeu gets a shiny gold star sticker. Wear it with pride!