ceecee
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- 8w9
...but do you ever feel like the people who do behave that way are the ones who get ahead in life? Perhaps because others know that they'll make THEIR lives a misery if they don't assist the drama queen? On my bitter days, I wonder
I do find it difficult to find a middle ground between being a doormat and being a high-maintenance bitch, I think. Though I was genuinely a doormat when I was a bit younger (like when I was first out on my own) and gradually over the years I have become less so. Still, part of the problem is that there tends to be a part of me that thinks, if I assert myself "oh, I'm just being mean now". And some people, probably the users, are happy to encourage you to feel that way.
They don't want you to notice they are disrespecting you. If you're preoccupied with wondering how mean something sounded, how can you? I do agree a lot of this comes with age. It's awfully hard for the ones who care about you to watch because we are thinking NO! I have to protect you. That's my job because you can't for yourself. That doesn't help the NF's. That's not any better than the fucks who blatantly disrespect you either. I think the fact that you recognize it is the best step. Even if you have to tell the NT's to STFU..don't worry, we won't take that personally.