Norrsken
self murderer
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- Nov 27, 2015
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- MBTI Type
- ENFJ
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
Hello all. I guess I'll put down in bulletin points as to why I am so confused about these two types. Every time I take those MBTI quizzes, I always get either INFP or INFJ, with the P/J part being especially tied nearly 50%/50% whenever I took these online assessments. Reading this thread, I definitely agree that I am the responding type, but the directing/informing part confuses me and I cannot really tell which ones I do without my own bias. I am also, without much doubt:
Hopefully, I will put this to rest and can move on with the correct diagnosis with all of your help tonight. Have fun figuring me out!
Well, I hope this is enough information. Thanks in advance!
Idealist/Catalyst (Abstract and Affiliative): Want to be authentic, benevolent, and empathic. Search for identity, meaning, and significance. Are relationship oriented, particularly valuing meaningful relationships. (INFP, INFJ, ENFP, ENFJ)
Hopefully, I will put this to rest and can move on with the correct diagnosis with all of your help tonight. Have fun figuring me out!
- Energy: I definitely get my energy from spending time alone. I either enjoy spending solitary time, or with one special person. My ideal crowd size should not exceed 3 other people, or else I shut down and not talk much; not because I hate the people, but I enjoy observing them rather than actively interject myself into the conversations. I am okay in parties, as long as I don't get ALL the attention.
- Social: I love harmony. I dislike arguments, I hate being in a fight with those I love, and the slightest criticism or the wrong look can ruin my entire day. Although I can be outspoken about what I strongly believe in (and don't mind fighting with strangers on the internet about it, LOL), I don't try to actively start an argument for argument's sake. What's the point of being impolite? I always cringe when there is someone trying to start something with other people, and I just want everybody to get along. I can't stand people who try so hard to be 'edgy', I almost can't explain it, but it's so childish that I have to roll my eyes every time. Rude people are disgusting to me, and maybe that is rude of me to say, but it is true. I LOVE to give advice to other people, and I have gotten in trouble so many times over this; I've been accused of being pig headed about the other person's feelings, because I am quick to tell them to what they should do to solve their problems rather than just give them the same tired "It's going to be okay!" mantra. Of all the times I had to stand up for myself... it was merely by accident and only after stuffing it down for too long. I can scare people with my rage if they mess with me on the wrong day.
- Intellect: I process information through my intuition. Definitely. Growing up, I was the daydreamer type, much to the deterioration of my grades. I did do well in a college setting, strangely enough. I am intrigued by the unknown, the things that cannot be seen or felt. I can be a bit scatterbrained and quite forgetful of the everyday things. I never forget the very important things in life, though. If you did something incredibly foolish, believe me, I will hold it over you in humor 20+ years from now.
- Emotion: I am so sensitive, I wish I could buy a sunblock for feelings so that I can get thicker skin. I hurt for those who are hurt, even towards those who are complete strangers. Despite having a bleeding heart for other people, I am my own worst critic. I love to counsel and help others in any way I can. I can sometimes be too nice, letting others step over me, and to this day, I still have not learned my lesson. I trust way too easily; I guess I just want to believe that there really are pure souls in this world.
- Jobs: I don't have a career. In fact, I am not very ambitious. I love being at home right now, while my fiance goes to his job, and I enjoy being a homemaker, though I definitely need to take up a hobby and maybe make some new friends. I never found my true calling, though I love to write, and perhaps a writing gig would fit me beautifully. Otherwise, I studied business administrations and will do all I can to be the best secretary in the whole wide world! Okay, maybe not, but at least it'll keep me busy! Growing up, I was definitely the creative type: Loved to draw, dance, act, paint, and write stories.
- Appearance: I wear my hair long, and truth be told, as much as I enjoy grooming and showering myself, I am not a very fashion-forward type of person. I make sure my clothes are nice and clean before going out, and I'll put on some perfume and light makeup to look presentable. Otherwise, I seem to have a more simpler, bohemian kind of beauty. I tend to gravitate towards ways to enhance my natural beauty rather than masking it, I suppose. Fun outfits and makeup looks, though, during parties, are fun to try out for me.
- Morals: I can be a bit of a live-and-let-live person, but I won't lie, I do judge people quite strongly sometimes. I expect people to pull their weight, though I hardly say this out loud. I do follow traditions, and while I dislike religion as a whole, I do like to celebrate yearly holidays with loved ones. I don't think I'm a conservative, though it seems that the older I am getting, the more I seem to pull towards it.
- Organization: I can be methodical, and like to follow the rules to keep the peace. My room can be messy, likewise for other things in life, but I can also be anal-retentive when it is time to clean up and organize things. I get anxious unless I put everything back EXACTLY where it should be, and I can't stand it when my partner just fling everything on the floor, bless his heart. At jobs and in college, I make things as organized as I can. Otherwise, I become jittery. I edit and re-edit things to the point of obsession, striving for the elusive perfection that doesn't even exist.
Well, I hope this is enough information. Thanks in advance!