Yeah for sure we just suck people into our soft squishy land of fi and they feel all understood n stuff
Maybe being intensely scrutinized by someone's ti feels intimidating.
Haha just letting the bs flow... No clue how I feel about any of that
Hmm. Fi doesn't feel squishy and warm when its used on me. Might have to do with its place in aux/dom though.
The thing about Ti is that it judges someone on a subjective level as a logical construct based on objective data. For example, if I meet someone I know, my thought process might actually go something like this:
Gender: female
Clothing: bright colors contrasting black
Eyes: soft, defensive, nervous
attraction?: yes/could go either way depending on personality
Capabilities?: likes to hike, climb mountains, good at pool, takes 3 drinks to get drunk, able to work long hours in boring environments, doesn't have any physical ailments, seems to be in good physical shape
Sociability?: stays inside most of the time, prefers small groups of friends over large groups of friends, hilarious sense of humor
Possible Type: ISFx E4/E6
Judgement?: Possible long term partner. Attraction could increase if I get to know her. Based on nervousness, possible red flags to look out for that prevent successful relationship include nervousness, indecisiveness of feelings, testing behavior. Based on capabilities, she will not be clingy or dependant upon me to take care of herself. Based on sociability, my needs may not be met and I'll have to put forth extra effort to make friends outside of the relationship.
Red flags to be prepared for: testing behavior, indecisive, unsociable, volatile. Proceed with caution.
She picks up on my analysis and she flips a shit. I'm at the point now where I believe this "shit flipping" is a sign of low self esteem, and isn't worth pursuing, as I believe a healthy person should be proud of who they are or comfortable with it. But even then, I'm starting to believe I'm wrong in this expectation, but to what extent I do not know.