hilo
New member
- Joined
- Mar 8, 2010
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 9 sx
Last weekend I was at a house party with a bunch of friends, and the next morning, a close friend said (in an offhand way)
"the way you were talking to XX I thought you were gonna hook up"
and I think "WTF?"
We talked about a lot of things - very personal, some disturbing, etc - but at no point was I considering anything but heading home around 2 and hitting bed alone.
BUT I do like to have intense conversations (with the right people!) - that whole making connections thing that SX are supposed to like.
Maybe this is an NT thing, I don't know, but 99% of these connections I make are mind-mate type moments. Not sexual. But they get taken the wrong way (as sexual interest) by both outsiders and sometimes the people I'm talking to (I have learned to dial back somewhat since in college when lots of guys thought I was interested when I was not)
Is this a common problem?
Does it have anything to do with stacking?
"the way you were talking to XX I thought you were gonna hook up"
and I think "WTF?"
We talked about a lot of things - very personal, some disturbing, etc - but at no point was I considering anything but heading home around 2 and hitting bed alone.
BUT I do like to have intense conversations (with the right people!) - that whole making connections thing that SX are supposed to like.
Maybe this is an NT thing, I don't know, but 99% of these connections I make are mind-mate type moments. Not sexual. But they get taken the wrong way (as sexual interest) by both outsiders and sometimes the people I'm talking to (I have learned to dial back somewhat since in college when lots of guys thought I was interested when I was not)
Is this a common problem?
Does it have anything to do with stacking?