Rachelinpa
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I love you SJs SO much, but The Plan always wins. Once there is a plan in your mind, it seems to take a lot of effort for you to warm to the idea of something new or doing something different. And, it kind of kills the fun sometimes. What are your thoughts on this? What is my best response? Is it something that can be worked on--on both ends? I'm sure we NPs drive you crazy with our spontaneous whims... but... hmm...
It's easier if I give context:
Me (3:09:20 PM): "Remember, this may be when I'm at the beach! I won't know for sure until I see how this trial is going this week. Also, I have to help my sister today at the verizon store...if you're up to doing something later (maybe 8:00 or so), I'd be game. I'll keep you posted."
Me (3:09:24 PM): so structured
Me (3:09:26 PM): who writes like that?
Me (3:09:47 PM): oh that's right...my boyfriend does
Me (3:09:51 PM): ridiculous
jock (3:10:01 PM): Yeah he's got everything planned out.
jock (3:10:04 PM): Look at that. very SFJ
jock (3:10:14 PM): updates you as to others personal plans too.
Me (3:10:15 PM): my response? "render me a calendar. and, post me please"
Me (3:10:31 PM): he probably will not understaand what i mean
Me (3:10:45 PM): n-s dissssconnect
Me (3:11:15 PM): it is kind of cute, i wish he'd admit to being that way
Me (3:11:33 PM): he got all bent out of shape when i called him at 2 am
Me (3:11:40 PM): i told him he was being unreasonable
jock (3:11:52 PM): Lol he got pissed at that?
Me (3:11:58 PM): "it was not an appropriate time to have that conversation"
Me (3:12:01 PM): hahaha
Me (3:12:26 PM): he was like "you wouldn't even let me get off the phone or say goodbye to me"
Me (3:12:31 PM): me: "You hung up on me!"
Me (3:12:45 PM): him: "you wouldn't say goodbye! i said we should have this conversation in the morning"
Me (3:12:51 PM): me: "...at an appropriate time"
Me (3:13:12 PM): how come he gets to determine that anyway
Me (3:13:19 PM): he is a killer of spontaneity
Me (3:13:33 PM): i'm working on beating it out of him
Me (3:13:47 PM): the fact that he wants to see me tonight anyway says something
Me (3:13:57 PM): ordinarily one event (the verizon store) would be enough for him
jock (3:14:02 PM): LOL
jock (3:14:09 PM): same for my ESTJ really.
jock (3:14:19 PM): Sometimes she'll say "Oh I have to go do this."
jock (3:14:28 PM): And I'm like "Okay, well how about after that."
jock (3:14:45 PM): And she says "...but I have to go do this."
It's easier if I give context:
Me (3:09:20 PM): "Remember, this may be when I'm at the beach! I won't know for sure until I see how this trial is going this week. Also, I have to help my sister today at the verizon store...if you're up to doing something later (maybe 8:00 or so), I'd be game. I'll keep you posted."
Me (3:09:24 PM): so structured
Me (3:09:26 PM): who writes like that?
Me (3:09:47 PM): oh that's right...my boyfriend does
Me (3:09:51 PM): ridiculous
jock (3:10:01 PM): Yeah he's got everything planned out.
jock (3:10:04 PM): Look at that. very SFJ
jock (3:10:14 PM): updates you as to others personal plans too.
Me (3:10:15 PM): my response? "render me a calendar. and, post me please"
Me (3:10:31 PM): he probably will not understaand what i mean
Me (3:10:45 PM): n-s dissssconnect
Me (3:11:15 PM): it is kind of cute, i wish he'd admit to being that way
Me (3:11:33 PM): he got all bent out of shape when i called him at 2 am
Me (3:11:40 PM): i told him he was being unreasonable
jock (3:11:52 PM): Lol he got pissed at that?
Me (3:11:58 PM): "it was not an appropriate time to have that conversation"
Me (3:12:01 PM): hahaha
Me (3:12:26 PM): he was like "you wouldn't even let me get off the phone or say goodbye to me"
Me (3:12:31 PM): me: "You hung up on me!"
Me (3:12:45 PM): him: "you wouldn't say goodbye! i said we should have this conversation in the morning"
Me (3:12:51 PM): me: "...at an appropriate time"
Me (3:13:12 PM): how come he gets to determine that anyway
Me (3:13:19 PM): he is a killer of spontaneity
Me (3:13:33 PM): i'm working on beating it out of him
Me (3:13:47 PM): the fact that he wants to see me tonight anyway says something
Me (3:13:57 PM): ordinarily one event (the verizon store) would be enough for him
jock (3:14:02 PM): LOL
jock (3:14:09 PM): same for my ESTJ really.
jock (3:14:19 PM): Sometimes she'll say "Oh I have to go do this."
jock (3:14:28 PM): And I'm like "Okay, well how about after that."
jock (3:14:45 PM): And she says "...but I have to go do this."