VILLANELLE
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- Aug 8, 2016
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1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?
I'm having a tough time right now and I guess I just am.. not sure of my type. I don't think I'm ever really sure of my type, perhaps because I'm aware I don't act like other extraverted types, but I just.. I'm in disbelief with myself. It's exhausting, really. I've typed as ENFJ on 16Personalities, but the Jung test on 123test or whatever it is, has given me INFJ so many times... but I think that site is fraudulent. Not everyone is an INFJ.
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
It changes from moment to moment and maybe I'm idealistic, but I just want to be on my own. I want to be doing a creative sort of job, I guess, because I've never seen myself doing a desk job. I kind of rushed myself to the future and I just never made any plan, I wanted to get things overwith. I regret it now, but in school I always thought I was amazing when I was amateur. I really enjoyed art, but I really enjoyed drama more and I really love movies and stuff and so I'd love to do something with that. I'd love to be doing something and just feeling happy; normal. As normal as I can be.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
Well, I didn't get the job, but there was a time where I had a job interview and the fact that I got a call back and was considered, that made me feel really happy and that change was possible. It didn't happen, but it can happen, I guess. There's... chances.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
I'm not good at math and I don't really focus when I'm doing things. I'm always thinking about the next thing, the result, the.. future, sort of. I'm not not in the moment, but I'm not fully there. I feel inferior because I feel like I'm not really enjoying anything and I'm rushing through things.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
I have to be realistic when I make decisions but ultimately, I do what I need to do/should do and I am the one that matters the most in my life, so while I look to others' opinions, I don't really listen to them because I've already made up my mind.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
When I work on a project or task, I'm often focused on immediate results as opposed to taking my time. I guess I do like to have control over the outcome.
7) Describe a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
I enjoy being out and about and doing things. I feel sad and bored when I'm by myself, which is a lot of the time. I don't have a lot of memories, but just any time where I was out with people, or shopping, those were nice times. I got stuff done. And then felt anxious because being somewhere so crowded... but other than that, I felt good.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you?
I'm kind of lazy and I like to see immediate results and so I give up easily. But if I'm willing to take the time, then I start a hobby because I know it will lead me somewhere. I'm attempting to learn a new language (French) and while I'm not great at it, I can recognize some things. So that's a step. And I do enjoy learning it even though it's frustrating and my memorization is shit, what I do/don't retain varies and it surprises me.
9) How organized do you think of yourself as?
I like to have things planned in advance, but I'm fine if there are things going on that aren't planned. I like doing things on a whim, like a sudden trip to the mall/food place/whatever. Those are always fun and my favorite, to be honest. But I feel pretty organized, I make lists if I need to and I do research if I feel I have to.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
I'm realizing now that I don't fully understand this question at all. I guess I look for information that supports an idea, or links things together.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
I like making sure that everyone is okay. I'm happy when I feel that everyone is happy and things are calm, there's harmony and a unity and I feel like we're all getting along. If that feeling becomes broken, I feel very upset, and that's often. I like it when the vibe is good.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
I think before I speak and I do prefer one on one discussion because it's easier. I do like being around groups, though. I tend to absorb the discussion before making my points, but I do like getting in there and speaking my piece. I moreso tend to observe a conversation and then add my two cents. I think before I speak because I don't want to offend anyone (hurt feelings), but if it's someone I'm comfortable with, sometimes I speak before I can really think.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
Actions speak much more louder than words to me because it shows the person cares. I often feel like nobody does care, and that I care more than others do and it upsets me. I'm always remembering details and everything, but people forget everything I've ever told them or they seem disinterested. It's tiring caring all the time and I'm starting to slowly not care. Or it's a depression, but either way I'll take it. As for jumping into action, I guess I like to know what I'm getting into in case arrangements need to be made or whatever.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
Hm. I'll probably go out, because they're friends, and I like being where the action is. We're friends so we'd probably be doing something we all like. And then we can come home and watch the show together.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
I don't do anything. I tend to bottle my feelings up and go silent, I guess.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
I don't like judgemental people, I don't like narcissistic people, I don't like people who make a big deal over nothing and are control freaks. It's tiring and makes for an unpleasant environment. I don't like people who stomp all over others and ignore their feelings. I've dealt with this by shutting down around them; it sucks but I have to do it. Why have a relationship with that person? I mean you want to, but you don't. I basically don't like people who are selective assholes or whatever. I don't know. Assholes? I'm fucking tired.
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
I like talking about entertainment with people; movies, music, podcasts, reality tv. I like sharing my interests with people. I also like deep conversations, I love a good conversation. I like when people come to me with their grievances or issues or if they're excited about something, it makes me feel needed and wanted and special.
18) What kind of things do you pay the least attention to in your life?
Important things like money/taxes/etc. I'm not oblivious to it but I don't pay much attention to it, unfortunately.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
I fear I'm not as kind as I am, that I could be manipulative... but I've been told I'm kind, resilient, things like that. Apparently I'm funny but I don't see how. I make stupid jokes and observances to be apart of something, sometimes I get mad over nothing.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
I would wake up, work out, and then I'd shower and go out and go shopping or just spend the day outside of the house. I'd most likely be by myself, not that I mind, but it would be more fun with friends.
Feel free to ask me more questions tbh.
I'm having a tough time right now and I guess I just am.. not sure of my type. I don't think I'm ever really sure of my type, perhaps because I'm aware I don't act like other extraverted types, but I just.. I'm in disbelief with myself. It's exhausting, really. I've typed as ENFJ on 16Personalities, but the Jung test on 123test or whatever it is, has given me INFJ so many times... but I think that site is fraudulent. Not everyone is an INFJ.
2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?
It changes from moment to moment and maybe I'm idealistic, but I just want to be on my own. I want to be doing a creative sort of job, I guess, because I've never seen myself doing a desk job. I kind of rushed myself to the future and I just never made any plan, I wanted to get things overwith. I regret it now, but in school I always thought I was amazing when I was amateur. I really enjoyed art, but I really enjoyed drama more and I really love movies and stuff and so I'd love to do something with that. I'd love to be doing something and just feeling happy; normal. As normal as I can be.
3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.
Well, I didn't get the job, but there was a time where I had a job interview and the fact that I got a call back and was considered, that made me feel really happy and that change was possible. It didn't happen, but it can happen, I guess. There's... chances.
4) What makes you feel inferior?
I'm not good at math and I don't really focus when I'm doing things. I'm always thinking about the next thing, the result, the.. future, sort of. I'm not not in the moment, but I'm not fully there. I feel inferior because I feel like I'm not really enjoying anything and I'm rushing through things.
5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)
I have to be realistic when I make decisions but ultimately, I do what I need to do/should do and I am the one that matters the most in my life, so while I look to others' opinions, I don't really listen to them because I've already made up my mind.
6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?
When I work on a project or task, I'm often focused on immediate results as opposed to taking my time. I guess I do like to have control over the outcome.
7) Describe a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?
I enjoy being out and about and doing things. I feel sad and bored when I'm by myself, which is a lot of the time. I don't have a lot of memories, but just any time where I was out with people, or shopping, those were nice times. I got stuff done. And then felt anxious because being somewhere so crowded... but other than that, I felt good.
8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you?
I'm kind of lazy and I like to see immediate results and so I give up easily. But if I'm willing to take the time, then I start a hobby because I know it will lead me somewhere. I'm attempting to learn a new language (French) and while I'm not great at it, I can recognize some things. So that's a step. And I do enjoy learning it even though it's frustrating and my memorization is shit, what I do/don't retain varies and it surprises me.
9) How organized do you think of yourself as?
I like to have things planned in advance, but I'm fine if there are things going on that aren't planned. I like doing things on a whim, like a sudden trip to the mall/food place/whatever. Those are always fun and my favorite, to be honest. But I feel pretty organized, I make lists if I need to and I do research if I feel I have to.
10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?
I'm realizing now that I don't fully understand this question at all. I guess I look for information that supports an idea, or links things together.
11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?
I like making sure that everyone is okay. I'm happy when I feel that everyone is happy and things are calm, there's harmony and a unity and I feel like we're all getting along. If that feeling becomes broken, I feel very upset, and that's often. I like it when the vibe is good.
12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?
I think before I speak and I do prefer one on one discussion because it's easier. I do like being around groups, though. I tend to absorb the discussion before making my points, but I do like getting in there and speaking my piece. I moreso tend to observe a conversation and then add my two cents. I think before I speak because I don't want to offend anyone (hurt feelings), but if it's someone I'm comfortable with, sometimes I speak before I can really think.
13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?
Actions speak much more louder than words to me because it shows the person cares. I often feel like nobody does care, and that I care more than others do and it upsets me. I'm always remembering details and everything, but people forget everything I've ever told them or they seem disinterested. It's tiring caring all the time and I'm starting to slowly not care. Or it's a depression, but either way I'll take it. As for jumping into action, I guess I like to know what I'm getting into in case arrangements need to be made or whatever.
14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favorite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?
Hm. I'll probably go out, because they're friends, and I like being where the action is. We're friends so we'd probably be doing something we all like. And then we can come home and watch the show together.
15) How do you act when you're stressed out?
I don't do anything. I tend to bottle my feelings up and go silent, I guess.
16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?
I don't like judgemental people, I don't like narcissistic people, I don't like people who make a big deal over nothing and are control freaks. It's tiring and makes for an unpleasant environment. I don't like people who stomp all over others and ignore their feelings. I've dealt with this by shutting down around them; it sucks but I have to do it. Why have a relationship with that person? I mean you want to, but you don't. I basically don't like people who are selective assholes or whatever. I don't know. Assholes? I'm fucking tired.
17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?
I like talking about entertainment with people; movies, music, podcasts, reality tv. I like sharing my interests with people. I also like deep conversations, I love a good conversation. I like when people come to me with their grievances or issues or if they're excited about something, it makes me feel needed and wanted and special.
18) What kind of things do you pay the least attention to in your life?
Important things like money/taxes/etc. I'm not oblivious to it but I don't pay much attention to it, unfortunately.
19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?
I fear I'm not as kind as I am, that I could be manipulative... but I've been told I'm kind, resilient, things like that. Apparently I'm funny but I don't see how. I make stupid jokes and observances to be apart of something, sometimes I get mad over nothing.
20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?
I would wake up, work out, and then I'd shower and go out and go shopping or just spend the day outside of the house. I'd most likely be by myself, not that I mind, but it would be more fun with friends.
Feel free to ask me more questions tbh.