Examples like Domino's help because of this:
I guess it's in the eye of the beholder though..what I considered beyond cruel, they considered oversensitivity on my part.
When I was younger I was often guilty of saying or doing something that others found hurtful, even though that was never my intention. Upon realising the effect it had on others I changed that but it is still there, in me, I just bite my tongue if what I have to say may be hurtful and employ Fe to word it another way. My aim was never to scar so using Fe is a good thing for others.
The way you word the OP suggests you see scarring as the aim. That's disturbing. I know there are those out there who toy with people just to see if they can, but generally that's something that goes hand in hand with narcissism imo, which is a separate topic to ENTPness.
The manipulation part I don't get, people always seem to see that as a negative thing so I'm not sure if my view of manipulation is the same as theirs. I see two kinds of manipulation, one where people use emotions; guilt, shame, etc, I have no respect for that although it can push at my Fe. The other involves using your strengths to get a desirable outcome. If no one is disadvantaged I see no harm in that approach, it's simply common sense to use what you can to get your desired outcome. Deception is a different thing and I'm not cool with that. I know manipulation and ENTP are often put together but I. Just. Don't. Get it.
Isn't it manipulation when someone uses emotions rather than directness to resolve an issue?
So tell me, ENTPs...is there any way to have that intimate bond with you without harming us both in the process?
I'm sure there is. Dunno how myself tho. 
I will fight to my last breath to keep life in my body and those of my loved ones, not hit them over the head with "everyone dies" simply because you are too - callous? - to comfort a friend.
Sympathy is an honest mercy.
Sugar-coating is at best a deferral and at worst a lie. There's a difference.
Personally I would never say "everyone dies" to you because I know it would upset you, the saying I told you in PM once is how I would put it "view the cup as already broken" it's not meant as a comforting thing, more a focus on what you can control and appreciate that which you can't thing. I'm not good at sympathy, to me it can seem fake, if I care then I would not want to patronise that way. You've spoken about this ENTP before so I think that exchange cut you deep and I'm sorry for that but I don't expect he meant to cut you, please don't jump on me for saying that, I
know it cut, just hear what I'm saying and make your own decision. All I know is if I had've said those words to you and seen you react with hurt I would have felt so bad because I clearly did not think about the impact before I said them