Hi guys,
INFJ here who was dating ENFP male. The relationship started intense from the beginning, driven by ENFP who seemed to be crazy about me. In true INFJ fashion I held back since I felt we were moving too fast and I wanted to know him better. As time passed my feelings started to grow and I started to fall for him. He might be "the one". We understood eachother so well, great chemistry and convos. I really loved being with him, his child like enthusiasm. He also said he has never felt in peace like this with anyone.
After 3 months we were so in love. Everything was beautiful. Until one night. He went away for this work trip and when he returned he wasnt the same. I noticed and asked whats wrong. It took him 2 days to tell me that at this trip he had met someone who had "rocked his world". This girl is 15 years younger and lives in another country. He said he wasnt sure things would work out between them but he couldnt ignore how he felt and that had made him realise him and I were not "meant to be".
I was beyond shocked. I could barely breathe. Its taken months for me to get back to life. I cant eat, I cant function. All I think of is WHY?? Why he did this. Why I wasnt enough? I still love him so much and just cant understand. I know few months isnt a long time but to me the emotional bond was so strong. Apparently not for him??!!
Recently I found out he has joined dating sites. So I guess his long distance dream girl didnt work out. But that hurts even more. That he dumped me and what we had for loneliness and dating sites?? Like was it THAT bad??
I cant talk to him Im too hurt. Anyone has any help on what on earth is this ENFP thinking? Why did he do this? Are they always so flaky? Did I dream our relationship??
INFJ here who was dating ENFP male. The relationship started intense from the beginning, driven by ENFP who seemed to be crazy about me. In true INFJ fashion I held back since I felt we were moving too fast and I wanted to know him better. As time passed my feelings started to grow and I started to fall for him. He might be "the one". We understood eachother so well, great chemistry and convos. I really loved being with him, his child like enthusiasm. He also said he has never felt in peace like this with anyone.
After 3 months we were so in love. Everything was beautiful. Until one night. He went away for this work trip and when he returned he wasnt the same. I noticed and asked whats wrong. It took him 2 days to tell me that at this trip he had met someone who had "rocked his world". This girl is 15 years younger and lives in another country. He said he wasnt sure things would work out between them but he couldnt ignore how he felt and that had made him realise him and I were not "meant to be".
I was beyond shocked. I could barely breathe. Its taken months for me to get back to life. I cant eat, I cant function. All I think of is WHY?? Why he did this. Why I wasnt enough? I still love him so much and just cant understand. I know few months isnt a long time but to me the emotional bond was so strong. Apparently not for him??!!
Recently I found out he has joined dating sites. So I guess his long distance dream girl didnt work out. But that hurts even more. That he dumped me and what we had for loneliness and dating sites?? Like was it THAT bad??
I cant talk to him Im too hurt. Anyone has any help on what on earth is this ENFP thinking? Why did he do this? Are they always so flaky? Did I dream our relationship??