Hello everyone,
Longtime lurker, first time poster. I've already taken online inventories and my initial results were infp, but I have some reasons to doubt this. I have no doubt that I am some kind of NF personality.
I will begin by acknowledging that I do have some stereotypical infp traits. One of the strongest traits I have that could confirm Fi lead is my extreme reserve in public. I've read that infj's aren't really that reserved, because of auxiliary Fe, but are still quite private (I am very private too, for that matter).
However, one important reason for my doubting lead Fi is that I seem to be more concerned with ideas and creative thought than values. This is why I frequently consider enfp and infj. Another reason I doubt infp is my inability to actualize any or most of my own desires: I mostly just defer to the will of my family. In the short-term, I argue and throw tantrums, but ultimately, I deny myself and give in to them instead of striking out on my own (it is my birth family. I have no wife/children). I am under the impression that infps are more easily able to pursue their own dreams while the infj is more prone to be emotionally dependent and to also consider pursuit of their own dreams as selfish.
I have the standard traits of most NF's: literary ambitions, a taste for indie music, diplomacy, idealism. I would rule out enfj as most unlikely of the four idealist temperaments, as I don't have much influence over people or a strong need for shallower yet more widespread human connection.
I would consider enfp for a couple reasons:
I could be an enfp with strong reserve from a stronger than normal Fi
I frequently have trouble with hypochondria issues, and have since I was a teenager. Though I would say I'm more like Woody Allen in this regard, and not a hypochondriac, but really an alarmist. This could be inferior Si.
One of the girls I've fallen for the hardest in my life seemed to be an Si dominant, I always figured it could have stemmed from Si dual seeking, but then you'd be getting into socionics.
I cycle through many ideas. Actually, I become depressed if I don't have any new ideas for stories (fiction), even though I already have many ideas I haven't even written yet.
argument against enfp: I go out of my way to avoid most people. Doesn't seem like something any enfp would do.
I would consider infj for these reasons:
High reserve
seemingly introverted in public, attention seeking at home with a "jokey" disposition
my emotions almost always find their way out, as you would expect from an Fe user. Even around people I'm uncomfortable around, I will occasionally have outbursts and let them see my anger, rather than hold it in. These outbursts are generally not related to a clash of deep-seated values, but superficial annoyances.
I think I am a lead intuitive, not a lead feeler
Argument against infj:
lack of friendly-type behavior with strangers, very reserved, even with common social graces and gestures.
Let me know what you all think!
Longtime lurker, first time poster. I've already taken online inventories and my initial results were infp, but I have some reasons to doubt this. I have no doubt that I am some kind of NF personality.
I will begin by acknowledging that I do have some stereotypical infp traits. One of the strongest traits I have that could confirm Fi lead is my extreme reserve in public. I've read that infj's aren't really that reserved, because of auxiliary Fe, but are still quite private (I am very private too, for that matter).
However, one important reason for my doubting lead Fi is that I seem to be more concerned with ideas and creative thought than values. This is why I frequently consider enfp and infj. Another reason I doubt infp is my inability to actualize any or most of my own desires: I mostly just defer to the will of my family. In the short-term, I argue and throw tantrums, but ultimately, I deny myself and give in to them instead of striking out on my own (it is my birth family. I have no wife/children). I am under the impression that infps are more easily able to pursue their own dreams while the infj is more prone to be emotionally dependent and to also consider pursuit of their own dreams as selfish.
I have the standard traits of most NF's: literary ambitions, a taste for indie music, diplomacy, idealism. I would rule out enfj as most unlikely of the four idealist temperaments, as I don't have much influence over people or a strong need for shallower yet more widespread human connection.
I would consider enfp for a couple reasons:
I could be an enfp with strong reserve from a stronger than normal Fi
I frequently have trouble with hypochondria issues, and have since I was a teenager. Though I would say I'm more like Woody Allen in this regard, and not a hypochondriac, but really an alarmist. This could be inferior Si.
One of the girls I've fallen for the hardest in my life seemed to be an Si dominant, I always figured it could have stemmed from Si dual seeking, but then you'd be getting into socionics.
I cycle through many ideas. Actually, I become depressed if I don't have any new ideas for stories (fiction), even though I already have many ideas I haven't even written yet.
argument against enfp: I go out of my way to avoid most people. Doesn't seem like something any enfp would do.
I would consider infj for these reasons:
High reserve
seemingly introverted in public, attention seeking at home with a "jokey" disposition
my emotions almost always find their way out, as you would expect from an Fe user. Even around people I'm uncomfortable around, I will occasionally have outbursts and let them see my anger, rather than hold it in. These outbursts are generally not related to a clash of deep-seated values, but superficial annoyances.
I think I am a lead intuitive, not a lead feeler
Argument against infj:
lack of friendly-type behavior with strangers, very reserved, even with common social graces and gestures.
Let me know what you all think!