Susah
New member
- Joined
- Mar 11, 2013
- Messages
- 27
- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 4w5
Have been spending time in my lonely room feeling sorry for myself and how lonely I am, trying to type all my friends who aren't around - as is the custom.
And in particular there is this person in whom I have lately taken an interest. For some reason I seem to have decided he is the most fantastic kindest person in existence, and I should make an effort to get to know him better. At first I had him down as an INFP, but after some consideration I realised that he seems to be more S than N.
And my heart broke (no, really...) Basically, I still think he is one of the nicest people I know and he has been incredibly kind to me. But I seem to think 'how much more of him is there actually to know if he is a Sensor? I already know him superficially - is that it?' I feel like such a horrible person for thinking this. Surely just because you're more concrete than abstract that doesn't mean you have no depth?
I have already tried some fishing with him, and he hasn't responded very much but I don't know to what extent that is just him being reluctant or if he just doesn't have much to say in response to my long-winded vague existential arguments... I'm worried that I have just bored him.
I have another friend who is also an ISFP (this one I'm pretty sure about) and his inability to understand me is actually one of the things I like the most because I feel safe from being judged - he sort of smiles and nods and is all loveliness. But this other guy I somehow really want to understand me and I just really wish he would open up and respond with something interesting. (To be honest I just want anyone at all to do this and am desperately looking for candidates...)
I'm also a bit concerned that I'm perhaps relying too much on MBTI: surely it shouldn't make me change my understanding of someone so completely? But then again it is pretty much the only tool (as far as I'm concerned) to actually get under the skin of people of different temperaments and not have unrealistic expectations...
Oh I don't know...
What do people think? Have you had 'deeper' relationships with Sensors?
And in particular there is this person in whom I have lately taken an interest. For some reason I seem to have decided he is the most fantastic kindest person in existence, and I should make an effort to get to know him better. At first I had him down as an INFP, but after some consideration I realised that he seems to be more S than N.
And my heart broke (no, really...) Basically, I still think he is one of the nicest people I know and he has been incredibly kind to me. But I seem to think 'how much more of him is there actually to know if he is a Sensor? I already know him superficially - is that it?' I feel like such a horrible person for thinking this. Surely just because you're more concrete than abstract that doesn't mean you have no depth?
I have already tried some fishing with him, and he hasn't responded very much but I don't know to what extent that is just him being reluctant or if he just doesn't have much to say in response to my long-winded vague existential arguments... I'm worried that I have just bored him.
I have another friend who is also an ISFP (this one I'm pretty sure about) and his inability to understand me is actually one of the things I like the most because I feel safe from being judged - he sort of smiles and nods and is all loveliness. But this other guy I somehow really want to understand me and I just really wish he would open up and respond with something interesting. (To be honest I just want anyone at all to do this and am desperately looking for candidates...)
I'm also a bit concerned that I'm perhaps relying too much on MBTI: surely it shouldn't make me change my understanding of someone so completely? But then again it is pretty much the only tool (as far as I'm concerned) to actually get under the skin of people of different temperaments and not have unrealistic expectations...
Oh I don't know...
What do people think? Have you had 'deeper' relationships with Sensors?