Tabula
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- Joined
- Jun 16, 2010
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- MBTI Type
- IxFx
- Enneagram
- 9w1
- Instinctual Variant
- so/sx
There are many I have great respect and admiration for. I have noticed a general trend in my relations with some of them (of course, as always, it depends on the individual, but this is just something I've noticed); I am usually intimidated by/ill at ease with INTP women and ENTP (ESTPs, too) men. I don't really know why, and this is my issue, not theirs, but I still think it's relevant, as, I think, it has something to do with communication. With the few confirmed INTJs I've known personally, (1 woman 2 men) there seemed to be this "mutual understanding" that went on. I felt more comfortable sharing some very personal problems with one of the men, than with my NF friend. I never feel like they are judging me, and there is this sense of saintly patience and calmness that surrounds every interaction I have had with them. I really appreciate their insight and vision into things, as well as when I would ask for help with something, this INTJ man would help me to come up with some REAL applicable answers, and all without even a hint of judgment or any feeling of having been personally criticized/talked down to. I always knew that he was critiquing my ideas, and not me. (I realize that with xNTPs, it is usually the same thing. What I mean is that, I never FEEL personally criticized when an xNTJ says it, but do when an xNTP does something similar. Again, this is totally my problem, as it's not the xNTPs' responsibility to ascertain and adhere to my style of interaction/communication. I just think that the communication style/dynamic of mine and xNTJs' is more compatible/complementary, naturally. This is something I definitely need to work on.) Even with some xNTJs that I have had only brief contact with, I felt this same thing to a lesser degree. I realize this sounds very one-way, and this is not the only thing I appreciate about them. Just on a personal level, this has been my experience.
Of every type, theoretically/hypothetically at least, I think that I am most compatible with an xNTJ.
Of every type, theoretically/hypothetically at least, I think that I am most compatible with an xNTJ.