Fluffywolf
Nips away your dignity
- Joined
- Mar 31, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- INTP
- Enneagram
- 9
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
Last few years but moreso the past few months, he seems depressed, frustrated, tired and generally ill. Constantly whining about back pains (he's 30 wtf?) etc.. Also, he is neglecting quite a bit in his job, and whilest I'm no record holder either in that department especially when it comes to administration work (I hate the administration! ) , some key elements are being damaged because of his actions, and at least I do what needs to be done. Not to mention my will to be 'around him' isn't very high at the moment. So I'm kind of thankful most of the work I do is not at the company, so I don't have to run into him too much since he brings me down with him. But that's also the biggest problem right now.
Since we've shifted into different jobs for the company, I've started to work a lot more on the front side of the company giving the service to customers and making sure the customers are getting what they want, whilest he slowly shifted towards the backend of the company, from initial customer relations to the legal aspects of the company, where I am just advising/sharing ideas. Now that's all good and all. But the issue is that he is starting to treat me as 'just an employee/driver' whilest he is acting like the high and mighty director making all the 'big descisions'. Whilest in reality he's not the maker but the executer or those descision. Obviously big difference.
As for his personality, there is a huge increase in bullshit stories, literally every conversation I sit in on with him and some of our employees for example, he will take a true story and totally blow the shit out of it proportionally, now he does this his entire life already, but never to the extent he is nowadays. Exaggerating everything so obviously. I'm actually starting to wonder if he actually believes himself, whenever he goes exxageration mode, I don't even bother correcting him and just let him be, usually making up some excuse to leave the conversation whilest obviously letting him know he's bullshitting without needing to 'humiliate him' in front of others. Not to mention he is now constantly marking his territory, letting people know how high and mighty he is and all. I seriously fear, not just for him and the company, but myself as well now. He does have the company stock, which is also fine with me, but clearly he's in a phase where he isn't making very good descisions and that might not bode well for the company and my place in it.
I have 'poked' him about this many times in the past in subtle ways that he should be able to understand and at times there were these 'unspoken' understanding that he realizes he took something too far and he'll probably do something to 'mend' things without there actually being any conversation about the issue, but that was fine with me, and things worked between us. I always managed to handle him and keep him in check for years. Lately however, he seems to be on full ignore to my probes and I seem to be unable to control him any longer.
Today I nearly blurted it all out and set him straight, but quite frankly, I don't think that would solve any problems at this moment, it'd only prove to make things difficult for us in the future, he clearly isn't in a 'listen to reason' kind of mood these days, so I'm not sure how to handle him right now.
I'm hoping he figures stuff out by himself, but there's too much at stake and the fact I shifted to the front end, doesn't really make it my position to push him around in his eyes.
For now I'm sure he realizes my value to the company still, but for how long I wonder.
Any input is welcome, just thoughts is enough, I'm just exploring however I can deal with the situation. Right now, remaining passive and wait things through seems like my only option. It least it feels that way considering my position. But things need to change soon if this isn't going to be a major problem.
Since we've shifted into different jobs for the company, I've started to work a lot more on the front side of the company giving the service to customers and making sure the customers are getting what they want, whilest he slowly shifted towards the backend of the company, from initial customer relations to the legal aspects of the company, where I am just advising/sharing ideas. Now that's all good and all. But the issue is that he is starting to treat me as 'just an employee/driver' whilest he is acting like the high and mighty director making all the 'big descisions'. Whilest in reality he's not the maker but the executer or those descision. Obviously big difference.
As for his personality, there is a huge increase in bullshit stories, literally every conversation I sit in on with him and some of our employees for example, he will take a true story and totally blow the shit out of it proportionally, now he does this his entire life already, but never to the extent he is nowadays. Exaggerating everything so obviously. I'm actually starting to wonder if he actually believes himself, whenever he goes exxageration mode, I don't even bother correcting him and just let him be, usually making up some excuse to leave the conversation whilest obviously letting him know he's bullshitting without needing to 'humiliate him' in front of others. Not to mention he is now constantly marking his territory, letting people know how high and mighty he is and all. I seriously fear, not just for him and the company, but myself as well now. He does have the company stock, which is also fine with me, but clearly he's in a phase where he isn't making very good descisions and that might not bode well for the company and my place in it.
I have 'poked' him about this many times in the past in subtle ways that he should be able to understand and at times there were these 'unspoken' understanding that he realizes he took something too far and he'll probably do something to 'mend' things without there actually being any conversation about the issue, but that was fine with me, and things worked between us. I always managed to handle him and keep him in check for years. Lately however, he seems to be on full ignore to my probes and I seem to be unable to control him any longer.
Today I nearly blurted it all out and set him straight, but quite frankly, I don't think that would solve any problems at this moment, it'd only prove to make things difficult for us in the future, he clearly isn't in a 'listen to reason' kind of mood these days, so I'm not sure how to handle him right now.
I'm hoping he figures stuff out by himself, but there's too much at stake and the fact I shifted to the front end, doesn't really make it my position to push him around in his eyes.
For now I'm sure he realizes my value to the company still, but for how long I wonder.
Any input is welcome, just thoughts is enough, I'm just exploring however I can deal with the situation. Right now, remaining passive and wait things through seems like my only option. It least it feels that way considering my position. But things need to change soon if this isn't going to be a major problem.