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- Enneagram
- 4w3
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I used to be an active member of this forum some time ago, now I don't post much, because I'm more busy, but I'm still interested in MBTI. Since a lot of things in my life have changed, I feel like I changed as well and perhaps, my type wasn't the right fit before, because the level of my health was lower and I was still pretty young. I just wonder if you think it might have developed into something else (maybe not). I wonder about MBTI, enneagram, stackings and socionics as well.
1. Establish a "baseline mood"--when you're at home with nothing to do, where are you at mentally and emotionally? What do you notice in yourself? (Note, this is not a mood you inhabit "frequently", but your psychological baseline).
I don't really like having nothing to do 'cause I get bored easily. There are two scenarios that might happen and they depend on my mood. If I was in a good mood, I'd probably try to find something to do and occupy myself with my hobbies or some choruses. If I was in a bad mood, I'd probably start to dwell on my feelings, begin to analyse them and make my self more and more depressed. It would most likely lead to natural laziness and kind of apathy.
2. Describe yourself--
a. What's it like to be you?
Conflicting, sometimes chaotic. I try to find a balance, between that part of me that wants to be successful, occupied and busy and the part of me that needs to be alone, think, analyze and feel things to the absolute depth. Sometimes, when I let the ambitious part out too much, the emotional part starts to feel empty and unfulfilled, on the other hand, when I let the emotional side out, I feel lazy, useless and guilty.
b. What have others said about you?
I've been told that I'm creative, think differently, that I'm original and artistic, that I appear self confident and charismatic. I've also been told that I'm very kind, conflict avoidant and honest. On the other hand I've been accused of messiness, disorganization, bossiness, quick temper and selfishness
c. What do you think of yourself?
I think that I'm creative, artistic and aesthetic. I'm ambitious, intelligent and individualistic. Yet, I'm also lazy, careless, forgetful and suffer from low self confidence. I'm too selfish and sometimes lack empathy for others, even when I feel my own emotions deeply.
3. What are the issues you've dealt with in life? List some recurrent themes, and tell us a little about each one.
Time management - There so many things I wanna do and I wanna try, I actually have no time for any of them.
Organization - I'm really a chaotic person.
Laziness - I often put my own comfort in front of more important things.
Putting things off - When I feel like something's too difficult or unpleasant, I put it off until it's usually too late.
4. You're not good at everything--
a. What personality traits and/or ways of being are impossible for you to adopt?
I don't get people who actually clean up their homes, I mean I do it when I really have to, but I see no meaning in it. I also struggle with thinking about other people naturally, I'm too focused on myself. I can't stand perfectionists and detail oriented people, I don't get them, when the big picture makes sense, it just does, the hell with details. I'm passive aggressive, I'm too worried and anxious to speak out my mind when I dislike something, but I'm also too stubborn and self righteous to just adopt or submit to something I dislike.
b. What are qualities you'd like to have, but can't seem to develop?
I'd love to be more assertive and self assured. I worry too much about what others think and I doubt basically everything, so it holds me back from doing many things.
5. Why have you left friends and other relationships in the past and/or why have they left you?
I don't tend to door slam people, I value friendship and close relationships very much, I'd never just cut someone out of my life. Usually these relationships naturally ended, because of someone moving to another city, or having too much work, or not being able to synchronize our schedules.
6. They claim enneagram type is a hidden love need. What are your attitudes toward finding love?
I don't think I'm a relationship person, I've always measured my worth as a person based on my achievements, rather than relationships. If anything, I think I've been looking for someone to "save me". I like to talk about my darker side with people I find attractive, about some of issues or problems and see how they can help me. I've been looking for someone to save me from some of my troubles and negative emotions and help me become more healthy and realize my full potential. But then, I'd have to be more submissive and willing to follow someone's lead, which I can't really do, since I'm really self righteous and self protective against anyone who tries to change something in my life. I've always idealized complicated and unhealthy relationships, I've always imagined that I wanna be free to be myself, without anyone telling me what to do, while having someone who loves me, but having them on sort of a string. When I want them, they're there, when I don't, they just let me live my life.
For the following, rank the issues in the order they apply.
a. Determine your ego ideal--the way you strive to be and want others to perceive you.
I wanna be seen as artistic, different, unique, original, yet successful, inspirational and driven. I'd rank this as my highest concern.
b. Determine your "felt sense" of life.
I think we should try to make this world a better place for future generations and fight for what is socially and politically right.
c. Core fears.
- To be one of the crowd
- To be left unnoticed
- To be like other people
- To be stupid
- To be laughed at
- To be humiliated
- To be ordinary, average
- To be seen as unworthy
- To be seen as someone less than others
1. Establish a "baseline mood"--when you're at home with nothing to do, where are you at mentally and emotionally? What do you notice in yourself? (Note, this is not a mood you inhabit "frequently", but your psychological baseline).
I don't really like having nothing to do 'cause I get bored easily. There are two scenarios that might happen and they depend on my mood. If I was in a good mood, I'd probably try to find something to do and occupy myself with my hobbies or some choruses. If I was in a bad mood, I'd probably start to dwell on my feelings, begin to analyse them and make my self more and more depressed. It would most likely lead to natural laziness and kind of apathy.
2. Describe yourself--
a. What's it like to be you?
Conflicting, sometimes chaotic. I try to find a balance, between that part of me that wants to be successful, occupied and busy and the part of me that needs to be alone, think, analyze and feel things to the absolute depth. Sometimes, when I let the ambitious part out too much, the emotional part starts to feel empty and unfulfilled, on the other hand, when I let the emotional side out, I feel lazy, useless and guilty.
b. What have others said about you?
I've been told that I'm creative, think differently, that I'm original and artistic, that I appear self confident and charismatic. I've also been told that I'm very kind, conflict avoidant and honest. On the other hand I've been accused of messiness, disorganization, bossiness, quick temper and selfishness
c. What do you think of yourself?
I think that I'm creative, artistic and aesthetic. I'm ambitious, intelligent and individualistic. Yet, I'm also lazy, careless, forgetful and suffer from low self confidence. I'm too selfish and sometimes lack empathy for others, even when I feel my own emotions deeply.
3. What are the issues you've dealt with in life? List some recurrent themes, and tell us a little about each one.
Time management - There so many things I wanna do and I wanna try, I actually have no time for any of them.
Organization - I'm really a chaotic person.
Laziness - I often put my own comfort in front of more important things.
Putting things off - When I feel like something's too difficult or unpleasant, I put it off until it's usually too late.
4. You're not good at everything--
a. What personality traits and/or ways of being are impossible for you to adopt?
I don't get people who actually clean up their homes, I mean I do it when I really have to, but I see no meaning in it. I also struggle with thinking about other people naturally, I'm too focused on myself. I can't stand perfectionists and detail oriented people, I don't get them, when the big picture makes sense, it just does, the hell with details. I'm passive aggressive, I'm too worried and anxious to speak out my mind when I dislike something, but I'm also too stubborn and self righteous to just adopt or submit to something I dislike.
b. What are qualities you'd like to have, but can't seem to develop?
I'd love to be more assertive and self assured. I worry too much about what others think and I doubt basically everything, so it holds me back from doing many things.
5. Why have you left friends and other relationships in the past and/or why have they left you?
I don't tend to door slam people, I value friendship and close relationships very much, I'd never just cut someone out of my life. Usually these relationships naturally ended, because of someone moving to another city, or having too much work, or not being able to synchronize our schedules.
6. They claim enneagram type is a hidden love need. What are your attitudes toward finding love?
I don't think I'm a relationship person, I've always measured my worth as a person based on my achievements, rather than relationships. If anything, I think I've been looking for someone to "save me". I like to talk about my darker side with people I find attractive, about some of issues or problems and see how they can help me. I've been looking for someone to save me from some of my troubles and negative emotions and help me become more healthy and realize my full potential. But then, I'd have to be more submissive and willing to follow someone's lead, which I can't really do, since I'm really self righteous and self protective against anyone who tries to change something in my life. I've always idealized complicated and unhealthy relationships, I've always imagined that I wanna be free to be myself, without anyone telling me what to do, while having someone who loves me, but having them on sort of a string. When I want them, they're there, when I don't, they just let me live my life.
For the following, rank the issues in the order they apply.
a. Determine your ego ideal--the way you strive to be and want others to perceive you.
I wanna be seen as artistic, different, unique, original, yet successful, inspirational and driven. I'd rank this as my highest concern.
b. Determine your "felt sense" of life.
I think we should try to make this world a better place for future generations and fight for what is socially and politically right.
c. Core fears.
- To be one of the crowd
- To be left unnoticed
- To be like other people
- To be stupid
- To be laughed at
- To be humiliated
- To be ordinary, average
- To be seen as unworthy
- To be seen as someone less than others