I've realized over time that inaction is not perceived the same by all people. To me, inaction is a form of action or decision. It is rarely neutral and either has to do with other factors going on in one's life that crowd it out, uncertainty of what to do, need for time to think, a conscious choice NOT to do something, it receiving lower priority etc. Only through the addition of more interaction or information would I know which it is and how I want to respond in turn.
However, for some people inaction may mean that they like things the way they are and if that feeling changes, they will notify you. (I'm pretty flexible, but hate emotional surprises, so this is something that I dread, because by then it's usually too late to do any negotiating or fix problems that have arisen, as the other person has already made a decision).
For others, inaction is a neutral thing. It can be a form of giving the other person space (as they themselves would value), it's trust that things will work themselves out somehow, or it is just putting things on hold for awhile etc etc.
Because Ni seems to be a look down the road function, I'm usually in preventative mode, rather than waiting for a problem to happen. Fe also is action oriented and most discussion/interpersonal exchanges often help the Fe user to dictate how they should take action. I'm seeing that the need to always try to actively prevent problems can even CAUSE problems, but I'm not sure how to get around it as it is a deeply ingrained part of me.
One thing I've gotten better at doing is realizing that some conflict isn't always bad and if handled correctly can lead to increased closeness and understanding. I'm also seeing that overaccommodating isn't really helpful to anyone. Certainly, one of the things I have had to work on is having unspoken expectations of other people.
I do not want my expression of the love languages to result in me expecting something of others. At the same time, if that is a natural part of how I orient myself to others, I'm not sure what to do if it is not natural to some other types (either in a close friendship or a relationship). There's a certain amount of difference that is necessary to keep a relationship interesting, balanced and cause both members to grow.
How much room is there for change and how much strain does speaking a non-native love language cause to a person? Is it something that can be sustained over time, or is it more symbolic that they are making an effort but it is never something they will really take pleasure in doing. For me, if the person doesn't enjoy doing it, I will appreciate their effort, but it takes a lot of the joy out of receiving it. Is it better to just try to find someone who is similar in the way they relate, or is it good for both people to have to reach out of their comfort zone a bit?