Wow, really no one seems to have gifts as a primary love language! Might it be because most of us are intuitives and liking to receive gifts is just more of a sensor thing?
The problem with this test -- the principle behind it seems fine -- is that it presents choices that aren't really contrasts. Often it's not so much about preference as the lesser of evils. The only reason physical touch and acts of service are so high is that I had to pick something, and gifts actively annoy me.
33% Quality Time - 10
27% Words of Affirmation - 8
27% Physical Touch - 8
13% Acts of Service - 4
0% Receiving Gifts - 0
I never felt like I meshed with this test, nothing really feels great to me or sticks out.
It all seems very Sensor-ish too, everything is very quantifiable -- tangible expression. That makes sense, though, considering the aim of the test is for couples to give each other tangible quantifiable signs of love in order to improve their relationship.
You know what makes me feel loved?
- Being listened to
- Given autonomy rather than being made to feel/think how the other person feels/thinks
- Talking honestly and deeply / intimately, so I sense I know the other person and they know me.
- Knowing I can be myself -- even if that means sometimes showing my "ugly" side -- and that the other person still delights in me.
Mostly all "process" things -- HOW do we relate -- rather than through WHAT do we relate. Again, Sensor-ish for the latter.
Wow, really no one seems to have gifts as a primary love language! Might it be because most of us are intuitives and liking to receive gifts is just more of a sensor thing?
Words of Affirmation 8
Quality Time 10
Receiving Gifts 2
Acts of Service 4
Physical Touch 6
Gifts and Acts of Service are only non-zero because of this:
It's also funny, nobody has a high gifts score so far. Gifts as an expression of love just feels wrong to me, very shallow and irrelevant. That said, growing up, the *only* way that 'love' was expressed was via birthday and Christmas gifts, so gifts on those days still matter to me (never managed to undo that pattern). Gifts at other times generally annoy or baffle me. I remember my ex would occasionally buy me gifts when we first started going out and I'd just look at him blankly.
The only reason physical touch and acts of service are so high is that I had to pick something, and gifts actively annoy me.
LOL, do you hate love?I cannot take this test. The options are too narrow. There isn't one for Neither!