Hi guys.
I have a question regarding INFPs females
I had a 3 months kinda on and off relationship with one.I found the whole thing quite difficult to be honest. The last time we had contact was after i got back from ibiza and messaged asking if she would like to meet up. She agreed and said she would like to. The day of the meet didn't go as i wanted. Some of it was maybe due to the fact i asked if she would like to bring her dog, so we could get out somewhere. I think i was trying to just keep it laid back and casual. It was a bad idea, as i never really got chance to talk properly. Anyway, since the meet i asked if she would like to meet up and go bowling sometime. She replied saying that it sounds good. I replied asking her when she would like to do it, when shes free, and got no reply. I since sent another message around 4 days later, and no reply. At this point im thinking she doesn't feel the same anymore, so ive left it. I've been really beating myself up over the meet, as i was not on form, tired and just not in a great mood. Its been about 9 days now.
The whole things hit me hard. I've hit a major depression, not been going into work, not eating, sleeping 16 hours and i don't know why. I guess its something to do with the fact there was this connection, and im sad it didn't work out. I'm also beating myself over mistakes i made. Also, i don't feel like i have closure. There were some strange behavour from her towards some of the relationship, and especially towards the end that sent me off in a whirlwind. I reacted from this in a kind of in the moment outburst and said something that eat away at me for ages and that i regretted. After i said what i said, she told me she never felt the same because of this but proceeded to message me a week later asking to meet up. We never got chance to arrange anything (This was a few weeks before paragraph 1)
Now im feeling really bad over the chance i had to maybe get some closer on the last meet, but i didn't get chance. I'm beating myself, saying to myself i should of done it one to one, over a drink, and got some closure and got things out that i wanted to ask. Now shes going no contact and feeling theirs no options.
I'm wondering if any female INFPs can maybe give me some advice on this, am i chasing a dead end or is there something i could say? Would a complete honest text work saying how i feel and i need closure and could we meet? Is it best leaving it some more time then message? Or am i at a complete dead end here? I don't want to cause any negativity to her by trying to talking, but i also feel this is maybe what i need to move forward, as ive been in this slump now for 2 weeks
I'm an INFJ male if that helps
Thank you
I have a question regarding INFPs females
I had a 3 months kinda on and off relationship with one.I found the whole thing quite difficult to be honest. The last time we had contact was after i got back from ibiza and messaged asking if she would like to meet up. She agreed and said she would like to. The day of the meet didn't go as i wanted. Some of it was maybe due to the fact i asked if she would like to bring her dog, so we could get out somewhere. I think i was trying to just keep it laid back and casual. It was a bad idea, as i never really got chance to talk properly. Anyway, since the meet i asked if she would like to meet up and go bowling sometime. She replied saying that it sounds good. I replied asking her when she would like to do it, when shes free, and got no reply. I since sent another message around 4 days later, and no reply. At this point im thinking she doesn't feel the same anymore, so ive left it. I've been really beating myself up over the meet, as i was not on form, tired and just not in a great mood. Its been about 9 days now.
The whole things hit me hard. I've hit a major depression, not been going into work, not eating, sleeping 16 hours and i don't know why. I guess its something to do with the fact there was this connection, and im sad it didn't work out. I'm also beating myself over mistakes i made. Also, i don't feel like i have closure. There were some strange behavour from her towards some of the relationship, and especially towards the end that sent me off in a whirlwind. I reacted from this in a kind of in the moment outburst and said something that eat away at me for ages and that i regretted. After i said what i said, she told me she never felt the same because of this but proceeded to message me a week later asking to meet up. We never got chance to arrange anything (This was a few weeks before paragraph 1)
Now im feeling really bad over the chance i had to maybe get some closer on the last meet, but i didn't get chance. I'm beating myself, saying to myself i should of done it one to one, over a drink, and got some closure and got things out that i wanted to ask. Now shes going no contact and feeling theirs no options.
I'm wondering if any female INFPs can maybe give me some advice on this, am i chasing a dead end or is there something i could say? Would a complete honest text work saying how i feel and i need closure and could we meet? Is it best leaving it some more time then message? Or am i at a complete dead end here? I don't want to cause any negativity to her by trying to talking, but i also feel this is maybe what i need to move forward, as ive been in this slump now for 2 weeks
I'm an INFJ male if that helps
Thank you