Intricate Mystic
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- Joined
- Feb 4, 2009
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- 4w5
Sorry - I was looking a bit too much into this what-if.
Realistically, if the attraction was mutual, something might happen. I don't know exactly what awestruckness and adoration looks like, but strong eye contact and an overall warm atmosphere during our friendly, casual interaction would make me very interested. You know, sparks we can both feel. How would I go about it? Who knows - it depends entirely on the situation.
So you are able to sense on some level that things are going well in interactions with someone you've just met. That's good to hear- I was a little worried about you.
I am not the guy who would pursue a woman that seemed to show no interest in me, like averting her eyes when I looked at her, or just ignoring me completely, thinking that if I was truly interested I would be the one doing all the work.
... and that completely goes with your being an ISTP- you guys need someone who is willing to put in some effort to get you.
But past the initial flirting, I do have a difficult time understanding how another person feels or what they want from me unless they are reasonably clear about it. The times that I have misinterpreted the way a woman felt about me, I've been let down and hurt.
Sorry that you've been let down and hurt. I can certainly understand why this would make you cautious. Were those women extroverts? I think it's sometimes easier to discern when introverts are interested in you compared with extroverts. Extroverts are so friendly to everyone in general that it can be difficult to tell if they are interested.