risha
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- ENFP
Hi all! Your feedback and experiences would be very much appreciated.
I am a female ENFP currently in a new relationship with a male ESTP. We enjoy each others' energy, enthusiasm and kindness, but we're both a bit baffled and scared because we're so aware of how different we are; both of us keep repeating "this couldn't possibly work, could it...?"
I guess we don't want to wake up hating each other in a year's time. Any advice?
I dated an ISTP for 5 years and it was great, until I woke up one day realising that I wanted to be with someone who would want to talk about philosophy with me deep into the night and could acknowledge some emotions too. That said, we're still friends and I have a lot of appreciation for the stability and adventure he brought into my life. I was pretty young - now I value a good sense of humour over the ability to talk endlessly about Sartre and Socrates. (Although I might just be rationalising because I'm in love with an ST again). I do think I get along better romantically with ESTPs than ISTPs due to the extroversion of ESTPs - we seem to share a deep-seated curiosity and urge to meet new people and do new things. Perhaps the ISTP's primary judging Ti made me feel as if he was just a bit too quick to jump to conclusions.
As for ISTJs and ESTJS - I have several good friends of these types, but I don't picture myself ever being romantically involved with any of them. It sounds to me like that would be an excercise in swallowing our impatience for both of us. Any experiences proving otherwise from you?
I am a female ENFP currently in a new relationship with a male ESTP. We enjoy each others' energy, enthusiasm and kindness, but we're both a bit baffled and scared because we're so aware of how different we are; both of us keep repeating "this couldn't possibly work, could it...?"
I dated an ISTP for 5 years and it was great, until I woke up one day realising that I wanted to be with someone who would want to talk about philosophy with me deep into the night and could acknowledge some emotions too. That said, we're still friends and I have a lot of appreciation for the stability and adventure he brought into my life. I was pretty young - now I value a good sense of humour over the ability to talk endlessly about Sartre and Socrates. (Although I might just be rationalising because I'm in love with an ST again). I do think I get along better romantically with ESTPs than ISTPs due to the extroversion of ESTPs - we seem to share a deep-seated curiosity and urge to meet new people and do new things. Perhaps the ISTP's primary judging Ti made me feel as if he was just a bit too quick to jump to conclusions.
As for ISTJs and ESTJS - I have several good friends of these types, but I don't picture myself ever being romantically involved with any of them. It sounds to me like that would be an excercise in swallowing our impatience for both of us. Any experiences proving otherwise from you?