What is with the apostrophe abuse on this forum?
It's a pervasive problem world-wide.
Won't someone care for the poor, abused apostrophe?
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christ1207 said:
I think the TC should find a healthy ENFJ to interact with. What can be so frustrating with many INTP's when interacting with people is how incomplete and even confusing peoples' emotions can seem. That obviously takes a toll on you. Healthy ENFJ's have a very complete expression of their emotions, through paralanguage and body language.
And ENFJs always need another project to work on?
PerfectGirl said:
I think it's fine to shut the world out (all contacts) to recharge and refocus on who *you* really are, what you stand for and what you want. Set achievable goals for yourself, refocus the anger/negative energy into positive determination to 'just do it.' You are in the world, but you don't have to be of it: lead, invent, set the standards, set the examples, and don't let anybody tell you that you can't succeed; you can! The solution is truly inside of you: adjusting your attitude and taking charge of *your* life, just might change your life for the better.
In general, I agree with the gist of this... but it's typically far more complicated.
If you want to be in the world, you have to interact with the world. Clear and simple. You also can't just pull in and out of the world without your contacts wondering whether you're committed to them as people or not. If you're not there for them, or you're not safe or stable, they're not going to invest as much in you from their end, and they won't necessarily be there when you need them.
I recommend figuring out what your goals are, realistically how many people you can deal with, and then pick a few core relationships that work the best for you to invest in, make other relationships strategically, and then not bother with people or opinions that don't matter to you and your long-term goals... if you really can't deal well with people and need to strip way down.
It's also kind of hard to "just believe in yourself" and "be a leader." Building the internal values and Ego and whatever else can take years, it's not just a matter of mind if you hope to be effective. But mind can give you the goal to which you can apply yourself.