The INTJ woman that I posted about in my thread (who apparently has a personality twin in an acquaintance of yours, Jewelchild) has very little tolerance for idiots or incompetence. She regularly takes a condescending and, well, insulting tone with sales representatives when they blatantly fail to perform, and the extent of emotional comfort that she offers to close friends or family is to say stuff like, "wow, I'm really sorry, that must suck." In fact, she has such a low tolerance for incompetence and inefficiency that she sometimes gets visibly and verbally angry at The Office character Michael Scott.
I don't know any other INTJs (male or female), so I can't really say whether I notice a significant difference in their behaviors. If my friend is any measure of other female INTJs, though, compassion is certainly not her strong suit. Maybe courtesy, but not really compassion.
I had an INTJ female colleague exactly like that. When I first arrived, as an outside consultant of the department she ran, she exhibited no patience and zero tolerance. I was brought on because 3 people in her department had left, leaving her to handle the workload herself and she was burnt out.
The other people in the building referred to her behind her back as derogatory name for a concentration camp guard.
In our very first exchange, I asked her a simple question about how the machines were configured so I could get to work. She went on a lengthy diatribe about how since I was
supposed to be a highly respected professional in this field, I should know how to operate the
basic systems. Seriously, I had only asked her where the machines were
located in the building.
I then asked her another question at the end of the day - something about what things should be shut down and what should be left running, and she said something very snarky. I just looked at her and said that she better cool it with that attitude because I was not one of those punk bitches that would roll over and take it. I told her that she had met her match and we can either do it the easy way, or not - but it was up to her, and she had 10 seconds to decide how it was going to be. She was completely shocked because
she had absolutely no idea that anything she had said or done would be considered rude or nasty. She was quite embarrassed and apologetic. You can tell no one had ever called her out on her behavior before. I had really hurt her.
We went out for a few beers after work and talked about it, and now almost a decade later, she remains one of my closest, dearest and kindest friends. But man, she has a mouth on her.