Darling Wallflower
New member
- Joined
- Jan 5, 2014
- Messages
- 3
- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 9/4
Here's my issue:
I'm 18, going to a local community college, and have a job. But I have a very strict, controlling, extremist conservative Republican/Christian, narrow- and closed-minded ESTJ mother, who insists on controlling nearly my every move and decision. Because of her strict controlling behavior, she has enforced me to quite others jobs and even school classes that don't fit into her "schedule" or because she sees them as pointless.
She loves being able to brag about my art that I create, but hates the time and money that I spend on it, and the devotion and passion that I have given to it. And with this passion, I've fallen in love with the art of tattoos. She also hates this.
She did allow me to get one, but that's because she was in control of it. She was overly, heavily involved in the planning, able to decide: what it was going to be, how it was going to look, where it was going to be on my body, when I was going to get it, and from whichever artist she picked out. As the tattoo was on my ribcage, it was quite very painful...but she made sure the experience was awful, as she teased me about the pain and made fun of me the entire time. (It got so bad that eventually the artist made her leave.)
Anyhow, as I'm almost 19, I decided to get a second one, by the same artist. (He was very professional and cleanly, but also a kind person, so I felt same with him.) This one was on my hip, so it's invisible, unless I'm in a bikini or less. I had been planning it for years, before even I got my first one, and have been the actual planning with this artist for about 5-6 months. I just got it yesterday, and she was enraged. I knew she would be, but not to the point that she told me I was a "selfish, spoil rotten bitch" who was nothing but "scum of the rather and disgusting trash", as well as I "have no sense of reality" and "strength within me as a person". I'm crushed, deflated, and I don't know what to do or believe... She told that I "never think of anyone else but myself", I "never think of others and out their feelings and thoughts first before acting", I'm a "terrible person" and she can't believe how "insensitive and self-centered bitch" I've become.
Anyone.. Please... I'm so crushed and don't know what to do.. I'm the typical INFP, I suppose you could say, in that sense. I'm such a people-pleaser, but nothing I ever do means anything to her.. And now, this.. What do I do?
(Ps, I'm so sorry for the long-ass post)
I'm 18, going to a local community college, and have a job. But I have a very strict, controlling, extremist conservative Republican/Christian, narrow- and closed-minded ESTJ mother, who insists on controlling nearly my every move and decision. Because of her strict controlling behavior, she has enforced me to quite others jobs and even school classes that don't fit into her "schedule" or because she sees them as pointless.
She loves being able to brag about my art that I create, but hates the time and money that I spend on it, and the devotion and passion that I have given to it. And with this passion, I've fallen in love with the art of tattoos. She also hates this.
She did allow me to get one, but that's because she was in control of it. She was overly, heavily involved in the planning, able to decide: what it was going to be, how it was going to look, where it was going to be on my body, when I was going to get it, and from whichever artist she picked out. As the tattoo was on my ribcage, it was quite very painful...but she made sure the experience was awful, as she teased me about the pain and made fun of me the entire time. (It got so bad that eventually the artist made her leave.)
Anyhow, as I'm almost 19, I decided to get a second one, by the same artist. (He was very professional and cleanly, but also a kind person, so I felt same with him.) This one was on my hip, so it's invisible, unless I'm in a bikini or less. I had been planning it for years, before even I got my first one, and have been the actual planning with this artist for about 5-6 months. I just got it yesterday, and she was enraged. I knew she would be, but not to the point that she told me I was a "selfish, spoil rotten bitch" who was nothing but "scum of the rather and disgusting trash", as well as I "have no sense of reality" and "strength within me as a person". I'm crushed, deflated, and I don't know what to do or believe... She told that I "never think of anyone else but myself", I "never think of others and out their feelings and thoughts first before acting", I'm a "terrible person" and she can't believe how "insensitive and self-centered bitch" I've become.
Anyone.. Please... I'm so crushed and don't know what to do.. I'm the typical INFP, I suppose you could say, in that sense. I'm such a people-pleaser, but nothing I ever do means anything to her.. And now, this.. What do I do?
(Ps, I'm so sorry for the long-ass post)