Synarch
Once Was
- Joined
- Oct 14, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- ENTP
Turtle-ing is the worst! Nothing scares me more and makes me more difficult and annoying to be near. Guess it makes me feel like anything could happen and I'd be totally blindsided so I'd better get ready for awfulness. That adds more stress and the turtle up feedback loop just grows. What makes you need to turtle? Is it not wanting to burden other people? Needing time to figure out a solution alone? Protection from others seeing you vulnerable? This was a huge problem in my last relationship...
I just get a feeling like I won't be able to handle everything as it happens, so I withdraw into my shell until the storms die down.
How do you become difficult? Argumentative? Grouchy? Withdrawn? Contrary? Do you realize when you are doing it? What does it feel like when you start getting that way?
Argumentative. Provocative. Capricious. Yes, I realize it, but I often feel out of control of my emotions. It feels like losing control of myself and like everything has turned dark and cold.
I find men in general are more tempted to multitask, but especially Ts when stressed and manic. But how do people get you face to face or one on one on the phone if you are all locked away in your head?
Good question. I don't really know. I think they have to wait for me sometimes while being calm, patient, and non-judgmental. A lot of times I want to know I can complain without making things worse between us. I feel like I have to get my bad feelings out of me.