When there is someone who has either done something to me or acted in a certain way towards me (unpleasant of course), I immediately put them on my "sh*t list" and from that moment on, I may go out of my way to make things difficult for them. Not in a way that it would be harmful, but I would not go out of my way for them. Are any other INFJs here that are the same way? Okay, at times, I may do something evil as revenge (as long as this does not go against my own values).
Are INFJs pretty black and white when it comes to liking and hating people? For myself, if somebody does not engage me, I really don't have any interest in conversing with them.
I don't think I
can hate people.
I mean, that's just an emotional committment right there.
I had to have given them some amount of myself, trust, whathaveyou in order for them to be able to affect my emotions at all, let alone that deeply.
And it takes a lot to reach that place. I have thick skin and high walls, and very few really get close enough to actually cause me any kind of damage.
And those people never have.
People disappoint me, and people frustrate me, and more often than not, I ultimately feel sorry for them, because they fail to see the bigger picture.
I tend to wish better for those who have done me [or those I care for] wrong. I tend to wish that they gain clarity someday. "Hate the sin, not the sinner," or somesuch.
So basically I sigh, shake my head, and walk away from them. I don't feed into any types of antagonism or passive-agressive behavior; I just call them on it once, and they tend not to try anymore. They won't get what they're after from me, and they know it.
I derive no satisfaction from going out of my way to make life unpleasant for anyone. Not even from secretly wishing it. What good does it do. That's all that crosses over my consciousness. Really. What good does it do. (so needless to say, I don't engage in these behaviors)
I have little in this world that's black and white.. it's a vast spectrum of shades of gray.