Based on the 3 INFPs I know, they are:
1. Quiet, hate drawing attention to themselves, despise exhibitionism and would never post their photos on the internet
Weirdly i am very capable of fitting this description the majority of the time, but at the same time can be completely the opposite
2. Hard-working, very INTUITIVE, love all different personality types and doesn't despise any particular type and instead look for commonalities instead of differences--being that they are HARMONIZER-CLARIFIERS.
hard working? lol, well yeah if it interests me, then ill work harder than anyone else, possibly due to the thought that nothing i find interesting or that captivates me could ever be considered work. i am a great fan of people of all different types, and they are my favourite subject although many i find i have already 'worked out' in seconds of meeting them, even people i should really not be fond of i can still sympathise with why they act the way they do and find forgiveness isnt a choice, its just something that always happens
3. Drawn towards helping people- especially psychology, where they want to make a difference and like exploring emotions to great depths and want feedback just as much about their relationships
So very true, i can become completely sidetracked with whats going on for everyone else around me, even to the degree that the consequential affect my actions might potentially have on others will sway my decision making process
4. In a group of people, an INFP is usually the right-hand man or the best girlfriend and prefer being out of the spotlight
i find this one very accurate in ways and not so much in others, because when im on a high i unintentionally become the centre of attention, therefore from then onwards people who experienced that side of me couldnt even begin to comprehend the 'me' i spend every day with, the introverted persona
therefore i am very selective about when , where and who i spend time with, having a birthday party would be impossible trying to combine all the different people i have contact with and worrying about whether they are ok or not
so the other side to this, is there are people who have no real idea of what i am really like ( fair enough because i am still tryin to work that out myself) although they may consider us to be close, so in those situations i never go below my surface and if it happens to be a day when i want to be alone, then i am and they remain none the wiser
5. They usually can see the positive aspects in everybody, including the people they don't like
As mentioned before, this is very true. Its often the case i find myself identifying positives in people they can not see in themselves and i take great satisfaction from making somebody feel better about themselves
6. Prefer to spend time to themselves unless with other INFPs/INFJs.
i know a lot of people and have a lot of aquaintences, but still there is only a very few people i even manage to feel comfortable around. Even they tell me im evasive and feel a distance they cant ever close, which is a shame and does create the loneliness im more than acustomed to, but still somehow prefer...
mainly due to severe anxiety and suffering regular and instantaneous panic attacks, i find being alone at home far less stressful than venturing outside where i everything i get involved with massively fails and provides a lot of disapointment or crashes and burns through miscommunication or fear of opening up and becoming really involved in things i cant just up and walk away from
7. Usually prefer a mate whom they can help/ fix emotionally.
i couldnt disagree with this, although my kind of people are spontaneous and focused, or just fun and easy going
8. In a mate, they're drawn towards significant others who are good at business and getting things done, being that they have a lack of practical skills, and acting in the moment generally.
wouldnt say in a mate if thats meant in the sense of a partner or significant other, but i can not deny i find comfort in knowing i have a logical brain to refer back to in times of decision, mainly due to the fact i will always act there and then at the time usually carelessly and pressured, whereas if i have a good amount of time for comtemplation before a scheduled event etc, then i probably make myself so anxious i avoid it when the time comes anyway
9. Very careful about family planning and choose their mates carefully and would never do anything rash without thinking a great deal ahead of time (especially when it comes to having children, where to send them to school etc).
so true, iv met some seriously beautiful women in my time and i always hope to settle with them and have plenty of children, care for them past the point of explanation, but as experiences are beginning to prove, i get to a certain point, realise they arent exactly who im after, or just end up besotted with the persona i have provided for them to see that, they get ever further away from who i really am and what i really feel, which of course is my natural inclination to not allow that to surface, then miss them forever afterwards wondering what if?
10. Musically inclined.