Hey sounds like me!
*hides*
GET OUT FROM BEHIND THAT WALL NOW!!!!!!
I actually do know one! She is an older lady that I work with who is NUTS.
She got in trouble on Friday, a couple people complained about her to the supervisor and she got butt hurt...afterwards she pulled me aside to talk and she pretty much broke down crying poor lady. I listened, gave her advice on how to handle the crazy situations she gets herself into, & tried to relate with her.
All they need is someone to trust and to confide in, and someone who will tell them the truth about their behavior- **but in a supppper tactful/gentle way.
What if they are your mother and you are a maverick of an ENXP who is blunt as a mace, hates being controlled, tries to use logic to gain agreement with people and is not allowed to disagree with anything?
Nope. I'm sure if he'd actually gone through with it she would have. He was just so damn ignorant. Claimed he 'didn't have the whole story' because he'd never met the guy. He was also having other issues with her around the same time and his trust in her was shaky. So he thought he didn't have the whole truth because she wasn't communicating with him a lot. So he didn't know specifics about the guy, just that he was "bad news." This was also right after he knocked her up, so he was thinking circles around the idea of being a dad and his empathy spilled out for the ex and got the better of him. He did ask a lot of people about it, I'm guessing because he knew it was full of holes.
He's also one of those people who seem to generalize a lot. Like, he will identify you in stereotype based on your preferences to an extreme. Reagan was my "favorite president" when I was a kid. My sister told him and he seemed offended because he said he "didn't have (me) pegged as a capital elitist."
Lulz ensued.
His ideas of authority can get out of hand too. He'll talk to anyone who looks the part of an authority of a subject with near adoration, but be severely dismissive to hearing the opinions of others. Treats people in "service" as if they are all mentally handicap.
He can be very nice and supportive on the other end. I don't think he's capable of saying no to someone in need. One of those "I'll jump in my car right now, doesn't matter what time it is!" kinda guys. (Which most ENFJs will probably tell you is not always a virtue and has it's own problems & selfish implications.) But his judgments are too severe and out of control. His intuition is master over him and not visa versa. And he spews Fe in a way that makes him seem high half the time. He's just not very well rounded. He hasn't got much of a clue how to handle himself and it spills into his interactions.
I know an ENFJ guy who is impossible in that he uses very subjective logic and a ridiculously strong idealism to think it is HIS personal responsibility to mend/fix/help EVERY person and relationship and social system on the planet.
Nope. I'm sure if he'd actually gone through with it she would have. He was just so damn ignorant. Claimed he 'didn't have the whole story' because he'd never met the guy. He was also having other issues with her around the same time and his trust in her was shaky. So he thought he didn't have the whole truth because she wasn't communicating with him a lot. So he didn't know specifics about the guy, just that he was "bad news." This was also right after he knocked her up, so he was thinking circles around the idea of being a dad and his empathy spilled out for the ex and got the better of him. He did ask a lot of people about it, I'm guessing because he knew it was full of holes.
He's also one of those people who seem to generalize a lot. Like, he will identify you in stereotype based on your preferences to an extreme. Reagan was my "favorite president" when I was a kid. My sister told him and he seemed offended because he said he "didn't have (me) pegged as a capital elitist."
Lulz ensued.
His ideas of authority can get out of hand too. He'll talk to anyone who looks the part of an authority of a subject with near adoration, but be severely dismissive to hearing the opinions of others. Treats people in "service" as if they are all mentally handicap.
He can be very nice and supportive on the other end. I don't think he's capable of saying no to someone in need. One of those "I'll jump in my car right now, doesn't matter what time it is!" kinda guys. (Which most ENFJs will probably tell you is not always a virtue and has it's own problems & selfish implications.) But his judgments are too severe and out of control. His intuition is master over him and not visa versa. And he spews Fe in a way that makes him seem high half the time. He's just not very well rounded. He hasn't got much of a clue how to handle himself and it spills into his interactions.
Who the hell does he think he is, caring about all those people?
He must be removed from the planet at once!
Do you know any impossible ENFJs? That person that always thinks everyone is out to get them, gets hurt by any sort of commentary, doesn't see any value in logic and has Se outbursts?
How do you deal with one of those?