The question I have is this..I gather the truest, honest and most real people around me very quickly. They are drawn to me a lot, however I just can't seem to care enough about changing my identity or position, even when it would be beneficial to me. I have learned to squelch the verbal to a very real degree, but I find myself wishing I could wear a better mask at times.
In this regard you guys really have an advantage and I have to admit that I fail to come across as believable if I really don't care. Conventional doesn't suit me, but it is part of life. Do you ever have any trouble with bending too much? Does it ever cause you grief? Is it more important that you give the proper impression than gather honest followers? I just have so much trouble being around people that I consider false and liars, yet I know full well that life demands that at times.
Very good questions...I've given it some thought, and I will 1+ everything Shadow said above, and add a bit more.
For me at least, I have the ability to compartmentalize my life. I try not to let my personal feelings or thoughts bleed into my professional life. Like you and Shadow said, I too draw the truest and most honest and awesome people around me (this is where the inner circle comes in)...and yes, there is an "inner circle" in the professional world/compartment as well as in my personal life. Both serve the vital purpose of proving a place where I can say whatever I want in the presence of these chosen people. The inner circle is where my tact is thrown out the window and I say what I really want. I go there for advice, support, and scheming.
However, like you said, in the professional realm, you are often placed with people you have to deal with who you really don't respect or like. This is where tact comes in. I tell myself, "It's not personal, it's business. Get in, get out, get on with your life. If I do good work they won't have a reason to complain." Now, also keep in mind that I only use this phrase when I simply do not agree with someone, or just don't get along. I keep contact to a minimum, stay out of their business, and force myself to be cordial, unemotional, and professional in dealing with them.
The part you asked about, the "bending too far" can happen if the person who I have to work with or report to asks me to do something unethical or that goes against my value system. In that case, I'd initially try to keep my cool, and simply say that I am not willing to do that for reasons X, Y, and Z. I would ask that they respect my decision. However, if they try to blackmail or strong-arm me into doing something, I won't have any of it. Forget it. Screw you, it's war time!!! (also why the "inner circle" is so valuable: strength in numbers, and many credible witnesses). I'm not willing to compromise my beliefs for the sake of a company. In my mind, those that deceive others will eventually be found out. I would rather keep myself blameless and honest.