Unique is spot-on (esp. bolded parts).
Several people have told me that I (an INTP female) am very hard to read. From my understanding this is not because I am intentionally trying to be secretive/mysterious/deceiving;
I just don't feel inclined to reveal things about myself because that's hardly ever necessary e.g. when engaging in a conversation.
Also, I do the chameleon thing quite often.
Most people only see a certain side of me, which is why opinions of me tend to vary on a large scale. But like you said, goodgrief, I always retain a strong sense of myself.
My core never changes even if my behaviors change.
Generally speaking, INTP's are less relationship-oriented than most other types. Most are strictly
minimalistic in terms of their social life, and aren't very likely to build "unnecessary/extraneous" relationships. Definition of "unnecessary relationships" vary with the INTP in question.
I tend to like me INTJ's coz they're intelligent and understand me on a level many other types don't.
I assure you it's not just an enneagram 9 thing (I'm a 5, btw).
So moving on to tips to get an INTP to like you:
1.
MOST IMPORTANTLY: Establish yourself as an intelligent person. Being proficient in something the INTP knows little about really helps.
2. Initiate conversations, but don't push the "small talk." I've yet to meet an INTP who likes "small talk."
3. Be humorous, but not plain silly.
4. Don't be overly energetic/show too much enthusiasm. It wearies the INTP.
5. Be genuine. INTP's generally don't believe in putting up a facade.
//will add more later.