Does unresolved conflict bother you? What are you most likely to do about it? I'm interested in how each type responds differently to it.
What does that mean "unresolved conflict" ?
Like when you have an argument with a friend that ended badly, but you didn't make up yet. Or he won't listen to your side of the story.
I hate unresolved conflicts. I don't care what the resolution is: breaking up, breaking away, trying harder, whatever - I just want to fix it and be done. The goal is always understanding. It's very difficult to go on with my day if I simply don't understand what went wrong, or someone's point of view.
But if someone is stubborn, or if I am too bothered by the turn of events, it's quite easy to resolve it by forming my own unsubstantiated conclusion. I just accept it as fact, then push it out of my mind and never think of it again. It will literally be forgotten, along with the person, in a matter of minutes.
Ah okkk. I think I only now that from my girlfriend, cause my circle of friends is more like non-existent .
And that with your girl then yes, sucks
I don't like things hanging over my head, so I try my best to resolve it on my end. It bothers me...I obsess about it and dwell. Most of the time, therefore, I take action to resolve things. As long as I've done something about it - even if the other party doesn't cooperate - I feel better.
It also depends on the severity of the conflict, and whether I consider myself obligated to resolve things. If I am having a conflict that is trivial, or that is completely the other person's doing, then I won't budge. It doesn't bother me as much, and I usually forget about it ('til the next time I see that person, of course). Sometimes I forget altogether, if the conflict is small enough.
If the conflict is with someone I respect greatly I would feel sadness and start my best on resolving the issue.
I'm mostly interested in what happens with conflict between you and someone in your inner circle - SO or family or very close friends. And what do you do if your attempts to solve the situation don't work?
I'm mostly interested in what happens with conflict between you and someone in your inner circle - SO or family or very close friends. And what do you do if your attempts to solve the situation don't work?