To kind of echo what Silkroad and ZBuck alluded to....with all of your posts, I'm left being struck with how much YOU love and care for her, and how much YOU want it to work, and any element of her seeing things differently, or not being open to that, is read as her not being 'open to your love' or 'rejecting your love'.
Ok, so... probably a callous statement here, but... what if SHE really doesn't see the longterm things in the way you do? What if she isn't so much 'rejecting' your love or unable to love, so much as she's unable to love YOU and in the end, the two of you together isn't what she's wanting?
It of course doesn't make the hurt you're feeling any less, as obviously you have your own set of feelings, but maybe in the end she doesn't see things the way you do. And why does this mean that her 'making up her mind to a certain reality' isn't in fact just as justified as the way you see it? Just something to think about.
As to 'soul connections', having experienced what I think is that sort of connection, I can say from my perspective that that uber-mental-connection is absolutely not enough, if there's no day-to-day reality of the relationship actually moving forward on a more pragmatic level... I mean, I could have the best connection in the world with someone, but if at the end of the day we have utterly different ways of navigating through life, or the 'simple' day-to-day navigation of life together is unable to be alligned together, then it's sort of like... I don't see it. Because, it's the boring day-to-day stuff, and interacting and making decisions together, that is the bulk of the reality of a relationship. So soul-connection is not at all everything.