avolkiteshvara
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Fuck holidays.
Maybe its just part of growing older... maybe my parents faked their asses off too. Maybe its the INT selfishness that bogs me down.
Maybe I am wrong but to me it looks like that all over developed world holidays are losing on their imporatnce.
Btw. I am not holiday person.
I hated the holidays when I was growing up. My mother got so stressed out and it made them a nightmare. When I had children of my own I was determined not to let anyone suck the fun out of holidays for them. I created a lot of our own traditions. For example - no formal type meals on Christmas. If we feel like fried chicken, that's what we have. Spend the whole day in pajamas and watch A Christmas Story. I still hide Easter eggs and they still color them even though my two are grown and nearly grown. You take what you like from tradition and toss the rest.
Being an ESFJ, holidays HAVE to be special (esp xmas and birthdays). Every occasion, i am left disappointed. I believe my expectations are just to high and i major suck. Being with an INTJ during these holidays sucked even more as he didn't seem to be enjoying himself (other than cooking the food), looked miserable most of the time and just generally treated it as another day.
Fuck holidays.
Halloween gives me an excuse to make a cumbersome, intricate costume and dance around like an idiot
It can stay
I hate holidays. just one more thing to fucking remember...
That being said, buying a present for a friend with no reason attached to it is something I excel at.
I live for that, too.
You holiday hating folks are wet blankets. Holidays, like much in life, are what you make them.
I love the holidays. It is up to every person to find something special in it and to make it special for other people. Even if just by expressing your love in a simple manner or just by making a point to spend time together without fucking off on a laptop or channel surfing.
It sounds like you've got a lot of good holiday memories, and I can see why that would give you an appreciation for them - but that's not always the case for everyone. In some cases, they really are a source of stress, pain, and endless frustration - when those problems generally don't occur on non-holidays. I like doing nice things for people, visiting, etc. - but I enjoy all of this much *less* on holidays. There's too much stress, forced gaiety, too many doomed-to-fail expectations, and too many no-win choices involved (spend holiday with family member A or family member B?) for me to get much enjoyment out of them. A "random" get-together is almost always more enjoyable for me (even with me being pretty antisocial ).
That sounds lovely, Syn.
Of course, not all of us had those kinds of experiences. But yours really sound nice.
For the most part, I enjoy having time set aside for family or vacations, but I don't like the pretense of it being about religion or memorials when no one seems to care about the meaning. For instance, Memorial Day means a lot to me since I have a lot of military in my family, but for others it's just an excuse to barbeque, you know what I mean? Christmas and Valentine's are the worst offenders in my book - the contrived gift giving irritates me. But, to each his own...
Syn just likes the holidays cause it give him a chance to whip out that big cock of his and show off.
You like to talk about my penis and about sex with regard to me in general, I've noticed. I get it. You like me.
Why should it matter how other people spend their holidays? Most other people are worthless, stupid sacks of shit.
If you care about the meaning, then it has meaning. If you don't, then it doesn't. The main problem is that we no longer, as a culture, seem to value very much. We are completely atomized and disassociated as a culture. Mass media and the loosening of family ties due to widespread movement across large distances have created a papier mache culture held together with bullshit bumper sticker truisms and empty materialism.
it's not the NT-ness. I spent the fourth on my roof, watching my ghetto neighbors put off bigger fireworks than most small towns, and yelling at passers-by. and it was fantastic. and if the purpose of the day is special to me, I don't need everyone to celebrate it together and validate my beliefs. holidays are just a time to relax, an excuse to be happy together despite whatever terrible things are going on the next day.My hate stems partly from NT-ness and partly from bad experiences growing up.
It just seems meaningless to go through the same mindless motions celebrating the same thing to which you really have no attachment to. EarthDay means more to me than Christmas.
I respect those going to church on Christmas(even though Jesus wasn't born in Dec) much more than I do everyone else casually celebrating the holiday.
You holiday hating folks are wet blankets. Holidays, like much in life, are what you make them.