And this is what my Enneatype says, I don't know if this could help to clarify everything a little more (the thing is that I never see myself as a natural leader, I don't even try; my ex says that even when I like to be alone a lot and do stuff on my own, that I usually need people around from time to time). It's true that I go a lot, even alone almost all of the time, to cafes and pubs. I have a cafe in the door next to my apartment's main door, and I go there almost everyday to read in my corner and talk to the bartender. I have a couple of places like that. Usually I go to a place that I like, by day or night, with my book or my kindle and read and talk to the bartenders if there aren't a lot of people. When a place is full of people and noise I try to avoid it and find a corner of my own a little less crowded.
In my college years I used to go out at night with one of my best friends (or any other people that I knew, college friends or whatever), and I could let them in one place and then go myself alone to another place to met with other people that I knew there. I never sticked for too long with almost anybody. I knew a lot of different people, I went out almost everyday with one group or another. And I always was meeting people around. Now, I'm almost always at home with my partner and my daughter, and I feel sooooo trapped inside, because he doesn't like to go out or do stuff outdoors, he has only a couple of friends and we don't go out at night (the last time was about a year and a half ago, I think...). Basically, I crave to go out with my sister or my friends from my hometown when I'm there. Maybe it could be that I have been dealing with injuries and operations for a couple of years, and now all I want to do is go out, stay anywhere but inside my home... I don't know
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Type 7: The Enthusiast (Energetic, Engaged, Spontaneous).
You are a Type 7 with an 8 wing: "The Realist"
Your trifix is 7w8, 8w7, 3w2.
In enneagram theory, you have one type for how you relate to the world (either 8, 9, or 1), one type for how you think (5, 6, 7) and one type for how you see yourself (2, 3, 4.) Your tri-fix contains one number from each of these triads. They are listed in the order of how strongly they present in your personality.
Your core type (your strongest type) is Type 7 with an 8 wing: Type Seven individuals are energetic, engaging, and playful. They have a love for life and can easily jump from one exciting topic to the next. The Type Seven thought process is a bit scattered, but that’s because they are easily interested in many different things. This is why Type Seven is often called The Enthusiast. When in a growth state, Type Sevens become focused like Type Fives. When they’re stressed, they become a perfectionist like a Type One. The enthusiastic nature of the Type Seven combines with the aggressive nature of the Type Eight, making 7w8 one of the most assertive types in the Enneagram.
Your second type (your next strongest type) is Type 8 with a 7 wing: Eights are assertive, dominant individuals who naturally take control of situations. Eights are aggressive in satisfying their needs, and indeed, Type Eight is the most aggressive personality type in the Enneagram. When in a state of growth, Eights become like Type Twos - caring and protective of other people. When Eights are stressed, they become withdrawn and secretive like Type Fives. You're an Eight with a Seven wing, which means that the outgoing nature of Seven combines with the assertive nature of Type Eight to create one of the most dynamic types in the Enneagram. Type 8w7s are a force to be reckoned with.
Your third type (the least-used of the three) is Type 3 with a 2 wing: Type Three individuals are self-assured, confident, and driven for success. Type Threes have a great deal of energy that propels them to excel at their chosen field, and this is why the type is often called The Achiever. Although Threes may not always like it, they’re often looked up to. Type Threes, more than any other type, are the most likely to be a workaholic. When in a state of growth, Threes become more cooperative and trusting of others, like a Type Six. When stressed, Threes become withdrawn like a Type Nine. You are a Type Three with a Two wing, which means that your driven nature combines with a desire to help people. You often come off as charming and outgoing as a result.
Some words that describe you: decisive, authoritative, natural leader, assertive, ambitious, driven, adaptable, energetic, enthusiastic, energetic, spontaneous, fun.