I can take responsibility for my end of the deal, but it seems like ever time I confront an enfj as to their intentions, they seem oblivious of some very real hurts they cause. The anguish is in not seeing our feelings...it seems that no matter what I say to let a man into my world, all he tends to do is say. "that is not the way I see it"...it tends to come across and never validating our feelings, but boy, if we don't look after yours, you guys tend to go nuts.
Oh boy, there's a whole lot in this paragraph.
I take it for granted that when ENFJs seem oblivious, they're really not. But they're also really not the live and let live type of this world--they're the managers of people. "That is not the way I see it" is management talk, for example. They make command decisions, is what ENFJs do. They make the decisions for us mortals.
It is imperative then, morally imperative, that ENFJs build up a muscular, knowledgable intuition. And they had better do something about growing some functional Ti too. In non-technical words, ENFJs are required, morally and by their own nature, to see a much bigger picture of true possibilities for the people around them.
True possibilities. ENXJs, you assholes are the kings and queens of this world, and you are required to lead it correctly.
I worry about ENXJs. Because they are so very active in the real, immediate world, and because by themselves each one of them is so very obviously exactly half-way to being the complete person, they have a lot of fearsome, unbalanced power.
Pec, your guy, I don't know, I really don't know anything much about any of these things. I'd guess he had some very, very big thing going on inside him to have chosen to shut down the connection you talk about having. What a great pity that he had to go and make too executive a decision.
Can I go ahead and guess some horrible guess? Bear in mind I am using ham-fisted Te to get at this idea. I'd be willing to guess he was both overwhelmed (by the connection) and under supported, ironically probably because with two E's together, the down, silent, closeness time would have been limited. He felt so, anyway. So he made a decision to withdraw. Really hope I'm not opening wounds with this kind of talk. I know for sure I am not speaking accurate truth, but rather banging around in the dark with inadequate tools.
ITs very kind of you to examine yourself and try and be honest with us.
I do want to ask something...i think Kalach said it, but not sure...its like you guys need to be IN us somehow.....can you elaborate on this.
Well, I didn't say that but, dang, if ENFJs don't get all sexually charged when they do.