Lots of thoughts.
- I thought his take was interesting, and that it comes from a co-4 reassures me.
- I wish he would have included a word on feeling rejected, like an outsider, and unable to be a "normal" human; feeling revolting and disgusting and all, but I suspect this guy was a 4w3 so the issues may not apply there. Still, this is the crux of the issue for me.
- I strongly identify with the "mission in life" phenomenon he describes more than I've identified with any other description of it--though I'd note that it doesn't have to be an artistic mission. I am very skillful with arts and aesthetics, but my own sense of destiny has revolved far more around exploring the world and its mysteries, traveling, building something great, and witnessing great (but unspecified) events in world history (for which the world news serves excellently).
- I remember the "original connection", though it's only as an adult that I became fully aware of this as an issue. I'm glad he brought that in, though, and connected it that way.
- I would have skipped the whole sobbing in the corner about how much my life sucks, though--no matter how bleak my despair, I've seldom been reduced to tears about my shitty life. Yes, I've pondered whether my useless life has been worth continuing, but that's been more of a general brooding than anything else. Moreover, it usually has to do with me being bored than actually having a shitty life. I kind of resent how his acting enforces the whole "all 4s are crybabies" thing, but that might just be me.
- What bothered me more than the acting, though, is the question of Why is the backdrop a Palestinian headscarf? It seems an odd choice.
OK, well I'm making this sound more critical than intended--I actually liked the video a lot, and it touched on the envy and longing in ways that most descriptions have not done for me. I give the OP thumbs up!
As a side note, I wonder if he is 7-fixed? He's making it sound like 4s should integrate to 7 rather than 1, and I am wondering if a 7-fix is why he finds that "gratefulness" work is beneficial? I can understand why other 4s might resent being told this--it's like, Sure, just change the subject here.
I have found, however, that it does help to use another fix--I've been at my best and most grateful undertaking entrepreneurial efforts, out struggling against the Real World, fighting for survival, and getting involved with community politics. These are the things that really have built self-esteem, and I don't think it's a coincidence that I have 8- and 6-fixes.
EDIT: While on this subject, I might as well add that I have found it beneficial to develop qualities of my other wing as well.
Just my thoughts.
PS--yes, I've been told I'm bipolar by my family. I disagree--this is just my emotional flow, and I've never seen the problem with it.